The Undoing of a Duchess

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(FILES) In this file photo taken on July 10, 2018 (L-R) Britain’s Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, Britain’s Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Britain’s Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Britain’s Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, stand on the balcony of Buckingham Palace to watch a military fly-past to mark the centenary of the Royal Air Force (RAF). – Britain’s Prince Harry said he and his brother Prince William were on “different paths” and admitted occasional tension in their relationship. The Duke of Sussex, 35, has been plagued by rumours of a growing rift between him and 37-year-old William, and he acknowledged that “inevitably stuff happens” given their high-profile roles in the royal family. In an interview with ITV television filmed during his recent tour of southern Africa with his wife Meghan, Harry said: “We are brothers. We will always be brothers. (Photo by Tolga AKMEN / AFP) (Photo by TOLGA AKMEN/AFP via Getty Images)

It turns out some traditions transcend centuries when it comes to royalty. Read any romance novel, and you will often see the romantic notion of royalty choosing love over duty fantasized, time and time again. Yet, in reality, some of these traditions have been around since the beginning of time, which makes them harder to break. Prince Harry and Meghan Markel’s relationship showcased the ugly side of acceptance from perhaps both worlds.

Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t always come with acceptance, and perhaps we thought those days were long gone. For those of us that thought those days were over, we soon saw the truth of acceptance. Duchess Meghan and Prince Harry’s relationship soon produced hatred pouring out from various sides of the globe. Which all seemed to start at home base, the UK.

I am sure most of us saw red flags shortly after the honeymoon ended. There were indicators of how the press would either accept or try to tear the couple apart. The was no time wasted comparing hair, clothing, and anything else that the press chose to go after between the two duchesses. The problem with the new couple was that their relationship wasn’t something that could be just theirs. Prince Harry’s life had often been played on the national stage as a real-life docuseries.

So, with all eyes on Prince Harry and his new wife, the nation sat by and watched the press try to undo the Duchess of Sussex. We saw the tears, embarrassment, and sadness in her eyes on multiple occasions. I often wondered what encounters produced such reactions prior to her public outings with the family. Could none of these situations be handled privately after the public appearance to help her save face? It was so blatant and heart-wrenching, considering the fantasy we all wanted to see play out.

From problems with Meghan’s family, allegations of bullying, renovating, cooking, her taste in clothing, all the way to how she held her son, nothing was off-limits. It soon became clear that she could do no right. Instead of the royal family circling around her to try to promote a safe environment, it appeared that they often tried to distance themselves from the drama. It was hard to tell what was staged after a while, and what was no longer staged.

The Duchess of Sussex couldn’t escape the black trap. It is the trap that we often feel in the middle of living life, which restricts us from being human. So, Meghan having emotions, thoughts, reactions that many would see as normal; would be abnormal due to her race. Finally, she gets the chance to do something she has never been able to do. She gets the chance to speak out.

We are living in a different time due to our easy access to news and public relationships. Words hurt and they also travel fast today. Some might see Meghan’s words as a betrayal, but many including myself see it as a right. We have the right to stand up for ourselves, and if you ask me, having her stay silent because she is a duchess sounds sexist. This is 2021!

This is no longer 1587 when royal women were restricted from being able to control their own bodies. We are living in a modernized era with modern ideas. Meghan’s voice is the voice of strength, guidance, and direction for those of us who feel silenced. If racism is ever to be cast aside, we have to stand up for those who have been mistreated. Even if those people are duchesses. So, in the end, just to clear things up! Meghan Markel will always be the duchess with or without the title in our hearts. No matter the outcome of the interview, we will stand beside her, because We Are Meghan!

Stumbling On Hidden Truths : Meghan And Harry

Welcome to my blog once again and today we’re going to talk about my girl: Meghan markle AKA Duchess of our Hearts!

Love!!

As many of you have probably found out by now Meghan Markle and her husband Prince Harry have decided take a few inches back from the royal lifestyle. If you have followed the monarchy like I have, then you know Queen Elizabeth II has a lineage of relationships built on love.

From Queen Victoria I to Queen Elizabeth II love has been a common theme in this family. If you are wondering how or why Queen Elizabeth II gave approval for Meghan markle and Prince Harry to live outside of the throne look no further then her father’s brother who was once King of England.

Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle

It should come as no surprise that Prince Harry is committed to that same kind of unyielding love when it comes to his wife and child. I think people forget the Prince Harry it’s not directly in line for the throne. Since Prince William has two small sons it really takes a lot of the pressure off of Harry and lets him focus more on his lifestyle.

There are people who are very upset about the couple’s wish to move outside of tradition. I support the Queens opinion on the situation because everybody have a light. Perhaps Prince Harry and Meghan’s light will be better shown outside of the UK.

In my opinion, both Meghan and Harry are doing what’s necessary to raise her son in a therapeutic environment. I often wonder about our president’s children and how they fair. We watch the children of our presidents mature whole terms, sometimes up to 8 years.

Do we even know of their descendants today?

In case of royal families their children never seem to get out of the spotlight, imagine how damning that can be if the spotlight seems to be frequently jaded? For a lot of people, I think the UK seems like it was a Utopia for minorities, if you are not from the UK. According to the history books slavery ended in the European countries before it ever ended in the United States. We even had black people who went to live abroad to get away from hate crimes here at home.

I think the treatment that Meghan Markle has received has been somewhat shocking for Americans due to our perceptions on the UK. The media from the onslaught of Megan’s pregnancy down to probably the last 24 hours has been nothing but critical of Meghan Markle and Harry. I know people don’t want to use the term bullying because bullying is such a ugly word, but the media has been vicious. I’ve not seen the type of treatment The Duchess and the Duke of Sussex encountered passed on any other member of the Royal family.

Ironically, this was the family who could survive such a feat due to their strong history of listening to their hearts. In a way, we are just watching history repeat itself! Love gives us the courage to move when others would have been immobilized in sorrow.

The Duchess Of Sussex at The Table of Royals.

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I’ve been following Prince Harry and Prince William’s life ever since their mother died. I can tell you where I was on that heartbreaking night of August 31, 1997. My husband had just left for a 30 day field activity in another state and I was around six months pregnant. I started having this horrible ligament pain rip across the lower part of my belly, just as the special report broke across the TV. I don’t know if it was because of the terrible pain I was in or the sadness of the situation, but I sat up in the middle of the bed with my hand on my belly, crying my eyes out. I just remember being on my knees looking at the TV crying and wondering why the heck was my stomach feeling so horrible.

I’ve often wondered what kind of women I will lead within my own household. I pray my daughters are strong, smart, funny, and caring. In many ways their path will be laid out due to the lessons I’ve taught them over the years. This is a testament for the kind of Princes that Princess Diana and Prince Charles influenced by their lives. It could also be a result of things that happened prior to Queen Elizabeth II taking the throne from her father in 1952. She has really been a strong woman and a symbol of change. This Royal family seems to be cemented in the idea of love. While there have been some issues, that every other person in the world encounters, they have managed to hold tight to family.

Prince William trilled us when he finally decided to marry Duchess of Cambridge Catherine Middleton. In many ways it was a true Cinderella Story! She was a normal girl and then one day she wasn’t. The Duchess of Cambridge had a fairly easy transition to her newly appointed life. While there would always be little pings of jealousy from those who disliked her, she would still pretty much be shielded from the bulk of the drama. Her family didn’t try to steal attention or cause waves to benefit from her marriage.

In comes the Duchess of Sussex, she’s not only common, but she’s American. She’s not only American, she’s half African American from a broken family with stars in their eyes. The Duchess of Sussex is a dream for little girls of color. She didn’t have to make out with a frog to get the handsome guy, she only had to be herself. I must go on record and tell you how much I hate the Princess and the Frog. Moving on, this relationship was set up to be the perfect fairy tale until her family started acting like evil characters from another version of Cinderella.

I went from being super happy for the Duchess to being super sad and somewhat frustrated. If I’m feeling this way from my little desk in Texas, she must be feeling it a million times more. Now her father has taken his drama to a new low, he published a letter that she wrote to him. I will not dare put it on my blog because I respect the daughter parent relationship too much for that, but I will tell you that her words melt my heart. As parents we have to do better. We should always be in protect mode and I feel like her father has demonstrated that he is now in protect self mode. I’m sending hugs to the Duchess of Sussex this morning and letting her know, it’s okay.

The birth of a person seldom happens once. It happens every time we rise from the fire.