When Opening The States Causes Confusion With Teenagers

Yesterday after my children and I arrived home, my 14 year old ran into the computer room and asked me about hand sanitizer. I really didn’t think much about her reason behind asking. I blurted out the location and went back to what I was doing. About ten minutes later my 22 year old walked in the room and informed me that one of Alison’s friends had magically appeared on our doorstep. She went on to explain how Alison was about to hyperventilate because she feared I was going to ground her until she was 20.

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Apparently, her friend biked all the way from her house to our house which is about twenty minutes away. I walked to the door and looked out the window and noticed that my daughter had on her N95 mask and had given her friend one. At first I was a little upset because of the situation, but then I thought about it for a second. How can we expect our children to understand the dangers of being out in this pandemic when our leaders lack the understandings of dealing with it?

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This weekend I saw multiple children hanging out with their friends and acting as if things were back to normal. At this point, it is a waiting game. The governor doesn’t want to open the schools up because he is afraid of children coming down with the virus, but he is opening up other avenues for children to get sick. As a mother, I can do everything I can in my power to keep my girls safe. However, I cannot control other people’s behaviors. I do not even want to dare think of any negative outcome of yesterday’s visit. I just pray that our children remain safe.

I am thankful that my daughter knew enough about social distancing and wearing her mask, but that doesn’t make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. The government is sending mixed messages in regards to safety. On one hand, it is safe enough to go get your hair and nails done by someone standing directly over you, but it isn’t okay to sit next to your best friend in math class. If one form of protection is needed to preserve the youth, why aren’t all avenues covered in protecting the youth? A sick mother, father, hair dresser, or friend sitting next to a child all produces the same outcome.

And if you are wondering, I didn’t ground Ally. I told her I was proud of her for practicing social distancing and wearing her mask. She hugged me and said she was so happy I didn’t freak out. Silently, I was freaking out!!!

Thanks to all those that follow and read my blog. You make waking up at 3 AM worth it!!

Support Doesn’t Mean You Have To Agree

I have been sitting on something for a while now. I wanted to share it with you, but I was afraid of how it would be taken. About a month ago my daughter came to me and said she was bisexual. It was a little surprising because she has liked guys forever. Guys are plastered all over her wall and on her phone. I asked her when did she start liking girls and she said maybe a month ago, then said months ago. I then asked well what did she mean when she said she liked girls and how did she know that she was bisexual. She then told me whenever she saw movies with girls kissing that those movies made her feel funny inside.

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I went on to ask what do you mean funny inside? She then stated that she found girls attractive. I informed her that just because she found girls pretty didn’t mean that she was bisexual. I told her I find a lot of women pretty, but that doesn’t mean I want to be with them. I asked her if she wanted to have sex with girls, and she frowned. So, of course by this time, I am paying close attention to the frown. Why was there a frown?

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So, then I asked her again, what makes you think that you are Bisexual? Keep in mind one of her best friends at the time was bisexual and the other was gay. She replied that she knew it just because and then stated a mouth full of other things that confused both she and I. I told her to just wait and give it some thought because what might seem like the thing to be today might not seem like the thing to be a week from now.

Well a few days ago she reported that she was back with her ex boyfriend and of course I asked about the bisexual thing that she had brought up about two or three weeks ago. She stated that she loves her boyfriend and that she isn’t bisexual after all. It got me thinking about the time I went out with a girl as a teenager. I am not sure why I did it, but I did. However, I was never forced to marry the idea of being gay or bisexual. I think sometimes we inadvertently force our children into being something that they might not be because we want to seem cool and supportive.

Perhaps, the best thing we can do is listen and give our guidance. It’s funny we give guidance when it comes to college, money, careers, but for some reason we try to shy away from talks about sexuality. If our children are going to commit to anything, they need to understand the full meaning of what they are making a commitment to. I can’t promise that she might not come back in two weeks wanting to date girls, but I can promise that she has a clearer understanding of what it means to be bisexual. “I see it all the time!” In my opinion is never a reason to do something. It only made me think that she was confused.

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I guess in the end I look at it this way. I am not arranging a marriage of any sort on my children, nor would I arrange an identity on them. If we talk about something and it is clear that this is who they want to be, then this is who they will be, but if I see confusion, it is my job to call it out. Right or wrong, I am mom.

Measure The Authenticity Of The Messages From Politicians

This has been a crazy week, but as it ends, I want you to do something for yourself. I want you to start measuring the messages that you hear from the people who are trying to gain your votes. Think about their cities, states, districts, and how their citizens are fairing under their guidance. Look at the type of laws they are working on while they are serving in Congress. Are they running for office and leaders in high crime areas? We would want to see bills that would help reduce crime and poverty in those areas. You would also want to see them introducing bills that help with healthcare, education and criminal justice reform depending on your location.

Are they good at reaching out to people and lending a helping hand to help bridge relationships? Also Google their history to see if they have ever tried to get laws passed that actually helped people in their areas. Take California for example, it has the highest number of homelessness in our nation. If a candidate represents that area, I would expect to see bills introduced with the intent to get the people off the streets. If not, I would conclude that they didn’t care, and would give my vote to someone else.

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This week one Congresswoman will try to do away with measures that will help to keep people safe. As a former investigator, I can tell you some areas need all the safety they can get. Depending on the location, cops might not come to the rescue. Some apartment complexes were seeing all of their children placed into CPS custody because of the activity in those complexes. These families were surrounded by drugs, drug dealers, and prostitution. Those areas would really benefit from extra security measures such as facial recognition upon entry. It would cut down on rape, drugs, and sexual abuse because often times I do not think the apartments run good criminal background checks, if they run them at all.

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We want to make sure people are passing good laws that will help our neighborhoods and the children that play or should be playing inside of them. So, clear your mind and think about what’s best for YOUR family. At the end of the day, we vote in the people who either help to bring harmony to our cities or the ones that help to destroy them. Listen and research because your future is too important to risk.

Be Careful About The Service You Give, You Never Know Who’s Ordering.

Earlier this week I wrote an article about Uber and how it pretty much saved my life!! So, it saddens me to have to write this article about Ubereats. Now, my daughter is doing a YouTube series on food and restaurants. She ordered both Ubereats and Waitr to see which service offers the best service.

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Well, I have to tell you, I was surprised that Ubereats did not come out as the winner. Ubereats sent some random email about our acct and refunding us money because of some odd reason. So, we were left with questions as to the reason our order was cancelled. I looked in our account a little while ago and the money has yet to be refunded. I am not making a big stink out of 30 bucks, but I wonder what happened to the order.

Crazy enough, all of this went down while Ariana was making her YouTube video. So, now people will see Ubereats in a less favorable light. I will say this in defense of Ubereats! Most of the time we have always received our food, I think we have only had one other situation that resulted in us not receiving our food. Both orders were over 30 dollars that resulted in cancellations.

Anyway, a picture is worth a thousand words, or at least a YouTube video. Sorry, Ubereats!

You never know what the customer is doing so always be on your best behavior.