Do You Know What Your Children Do When You Aren’t Around?

My daughter and her friend went to a movie over the weekend. I like to snoop around and found this. She and her friend are hanging out in the theater playing cops and robbers! It’s safe to say no more movies will be in her near future. At least she was honest, I would have denied it! Because she can hardly been recognized, but we know our children. Thanks to Instagram for being the kid police. We are talking about this little one!

Are You Throwing Away Your Inheritance?

Many of us have our lives figured out to some degree. Some of us plan every step down to the last inch, but what happens when our plans don’t go the way we planned? After reading a couple of articles by Mark Cuban and Warren Buffett, I think I understand why the poor stay poor. We find ourselves forever fighting the tidal waves of rent. I didn’t really think about it until after I left my last position. My family was making over 100 thousand a year, so rent wasn’t an issue. However, after I quit my job that 100 k shot down to maybe 50 k. I know some of you might be asking why would you give up that much money, well trust me when I tell you, money isn’t everything.

So, now we have to rearrange life on an income about half the size of the one before, and it has produced some soul searching. First thing I am thankful for it my daughter’s free tennis lessons from her school. She is on the tennis team and has her first game on the 22nd. We had to change car insurance companies because we could no longer afford nearly 400 dollars a month. We were able to get with another really good company for half that amount. We then had to cancel the Six Flags Membership, which was okay, because we only went to park three times and paid over a 1000 for the membership. I was able to see my daughter’s performance on Friday which was priceless. My last job made it nearly impossible to be a mom to my children. I was constantly missing meetings and events. We pretty much parked one car in the garage and currently use only one. We were able to get rid of cable and get Amazon, Netflix, and HULU which will save a lot. I found that my local grocery store has a lot of things cheaper and that my oriental store kind of sells things a littler higher. We tried to supplement our bill with fishing, but it turns out we really suck at that. I might be too hyper for that. Now, we are focusing on trying to lower the electric bill. For some reason it seems to be stuck at nearly 400 each freaking month. If we could get that down to at least 200, I would dance naked under the stars!!!!

So, after all of this, I’ve come to one conclusion. I am thankful to God for blessing me with parents who knew more than I did. Their struggles and their planning have taught me something about my own path. It only took me 41 years to learn the lesson, but at least I get it. Eight years ago we were just getting out of the military and starting life as civilians. I say we, but my husband wore the uniform. Yet, it felt like we were enlisted just as much as he was at times. We didn’t live with the mortars and near meetings with death, but I constantly dealt with the fear of the dreaded knock.

It’s funny because I wanted so badly to believe that I didn’t need my inheritance. I wanted to think that I could do things all by myself, I guess I thought that taking the gift that was left by my parents meant I was weak. I let someone rent out my house and refused to take my place as the rightful occupant on my land.  It never crossed my mind that Dukes do not turn down their Dukedoms, rich do not turn down their millions, so why was I shame of taking the land that my father so proudly showed us? Pride gives birth to failure.

It wasn’t until I did some real soul searching until I figured out just what turning my back on my inheritance meant to my family. It meant that I was cheating my girls out of an awesome life. Some of my best childhood memories were running in the woods and swinging across streams that my father and his before him used as their hunting grounds.

Another thing that gets me is the process of aging. We all die, and with that said, I feel like we are too used to moving around because of the military itch. It’s time to really build a home and not a home that some mortgage company can bill us for, I’m ready to start getting things together for a home that my children will never have to worry about paying for. We have a plan that God Willing will work out,if he sees fit! I plan to build a small cottage style house no more than 1000 square feet. The idea is to build up so we can get a bedroom upstairs, but before we can do that a few things will need to be tied up on this end.

Do you think it’s possible for life to be turned upside down so we can land on the right side of where we need to be? I feel like someone has thrown a dice and it was set to land on four, but it landed on every other number until finally it was thrown the right way. Sometimes the answer is so easy, but so hidden.

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Can A Movie Make You Rethink A Word

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I viewed Free State Of Jones last week and I would like to hear some feedback. I will warn you if the word nigger upsets, you this might not be the post for you. However, if you are willing to really stretch your mind and look at the word for what it is, you might see things differently.

In the first 6 to 7 minutes Matthew McConaughey’s character Mr. Newton Knight started explaining to his pals about not wanting to be anyone’s nigger. The first time he said it, I leaned in and looked at my husband. The second time he said it, I listened a little more and then after he said it a few more times, it started to sink in. Anyone can be someone’s nigger. I mean the way the word was used throughout history was to demean a class of people that another group felt was underneath them.  That way of thinking not only went for black people, but for Irish and poor people as well. I feel like Mr. Knight was one of the smartest men that lived in the Civil War era next to John Brown. It really makes you look at the word in another light and it takes away the shame of it. Mr. Knight created a band of misfits, so to say and protected the displaced from the Confederate soldiers who were increasing taxes on people.

Often when we hear about the Civil War here in the South, we hear about how the Yankees did a lot of dirt, we haven’t really heard anything about how the South took from those farmers and increased taxes on people which really pushed people into near death situations. It was an eye opening movie because I didn’t know that people were exempt from the war if they owned slaves. I don’t recall learning that in college when I took the two classes on the Civil War. So, Mr. Knight was like the American version of Robin Hood. At one point in the movie when a black character was called nigger by one of the white soldiers, he replied by asking him in a round of about way, how was he not a nigger too. Mr. Knight went on to explain how the South was making all of the poor people niggers and how color wasn’t even the issue. Can I say that Matthew McConaughey was brilliant? He was Mr. Knight and he made me want to know about the man and shake his hand for being do darn smart. To me this was better than A Time to Kill, and I loved that movie. It not only made me see the Civil War in another light, but it kind of made me see things a little differently today.

Here we are fighting against one another while the people at the top are toasting to the chaos. If a Civil War were to break out today the Clintons, Trumps, Sanders, and Obamas wouldn’t be going anywhere. This country belongs to the people, but for some reason we have forgotten that. Why are we fighting against each other on the behalf of someone else’s pocketbook? For many of these people it’s about money and power. Do we even know who’s in it for us anymore? Watch this movie.

 

Netflix’s “How It Ends” Makes Me Second Guess My Bad Book Review.

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So, watching How it Ends reminded me of a review I once received. I was very new to writing and thought that self publishing would be a breeze. One of my first books was The Last Love Story which I received a couple of negative reviews about and it kind of scared me away from writing for a while. I’m laughing a little right now, because at least my book explained why and how everything took place. When it comes to books dealing with the end of the world as we know it scenarios, I always find it interesting how many of us writers think so similar. My book was written before Revolution came out, so you could imagine the what what moment after I saw the first episode of Revolution! Anyway, back to the review! There are so many questions about How It Ends. What happened to Ricki, what caused the storm, and why was Kat with the creepy dude? I think the chaos level was right on point. We have seen chaos bring out the worse in people. I just feel like there’s no closure that comes at the end of this movie. I wanted to like it because it has three people whom I love to watch on the big screen, but there’s no conclusion.  I’m sorry Netflix, but this wasn’t the best movie. I have a favor on behalf of someone very special to me! She is requesting that you make a Blue Exorcist real life film because she’s in love with the anime. Thanks, and feel free to check out The Last Love Story.

 

 

Chilling With Netflix Originals

Today, I’m going to start out a little different. I’m going to talk about my Netflix Original first, then I’m going to talk to you about a movie with Matthew McConaughey. The Netflix Original is First Match. I’m not one to keep you guys waiting, so here goes!

We are seeing more programming that highlights problematic situations in America. In the movie First Match , we are introduced to Monique. She’s a teenage girl bouncing from foster care to her mother and back to foster care again. Monique’s journey really starts after she sees her father show up out of the blue. She’s wanted to live with him for a while and after they met by accident one night, she developed a plan to capture his attention. This movie will make you cry, so I warn you. If you are anything like me, get a box of tissues and enjoy. I found this movie to be symbolic of the foster care child. They are children who often want to be reunited with their families, but for different reasons that reunion doesn’t always need to take place.

In Monique’s situation, both of her parents show why she was taken away from them. Her willingness to please her father is the real hitter here. It really shows how daughters crave that relationship in ways that many of us could never imagine. This is a movie that really brings home the importance of a support system. Support systems can save you or damn you depending on the fruit of that system. I do not want to give the movie away, because this is a must watch. Watch it this weekend. It’s such a good movie and it will make you think.

The next movie I have to talk about is Free State of Jones. I first heard the world nigger when I was in middle school. I remember being in my History class and this white kid talked about why he didn’t like black people. He continued with his lecture and then I was like if that’s how you feel, why are you talking to me? He then went on to tell me how I wasn’t a nigger like the rest of black kids he was talking about. Well, that really didn’t make me feel any better. I’m black, and that word was offensive to me and all of the people who looked like me.

So, fast forward to last night and my viewing of Free State Of Jones. In the first 6 to 7 minutes Matthew McConaughey’s character Mr. Newton Knight started explaining to his pals about not wanting to be anyone’s nigger. The first time he said it, I leaned in and looked at my husband. The second time he said it, I listened a little more and then after he said it a few more times, it started to sink in. Anyone can be someone’s nigger. I mean the way the word was used throughout history was to demean a class of people that another group felt was underneath them.  That way of thinking not only went for black people, but for Irish and poor people as well. I feel like Mr. Knight was one of the smartest men that lived in the Civil War era next to John Brown. It really makes you look at the word in another light and it takes away the shame of it. Mr. Knight created a band of misfits, so to say and protected the displaced from the Confederate soldiers who were increasing taxes on people.

Often when we hear about the Civil War here in the South, we hear about how the Yankees did a lot of dirt, we haven’t really heard anything about how the South took from those farmers and increased taxes on people which really pushed people into near death situations. It was an eye opening movie because I didn’t know that people were exempt from the war if they owned slaves. I don’t recall learning that in college when I took the two classes on the Civil War. So, Mr. Knight was like the American version of Robin Hood. At one point in the movie when a black character was called nigger by one of the white soldiers, he replied by asking him in a round of about way, how was he not a nigger too. Mr. Knight went on to explain how the South was making all of the poor people niggers and how color wasn’t even the issue. Can I say that Matthew McConaughey was brilliant? He was Mr. Knight and he made me want to know about the man and shake his hand for being do darn smart. To me this was better than A Time to Kill, and I loved that movie. It not only made me see the Civil War in another light, but it kind of made me see things a little differently today. Here we are fighting against one another while the people at the top are toasting to the chaos. If a Civil War were to break out today the Clintons, Trumps, Sanders, and Obamas wouldn’t be going anywhere. This country belongs to the people, but for some reason we have forgotten that. Why are we fighting against each other on the behalf of someone else’s pocketbook? For many of these people it’s about money and power. Do we even know who’s in it for us anymore?

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The Kissing Booth-Netflix & Chill With My Husband Dish

I got a chance to see “The Kissing Booth” and I must say I loved it. It reminded me of the movie Pretty In Pink with Molly Ringwall, which is kind of awesome because she plays in The Kissing Booth as Elle’s best-friend’s mother. What I liked the most about the movie is that fact that is showcased relationships with the opposite sex minus the friends with benefit situation. I mean Elle does get involved with someone and the relationship does turn sexual, but it isn’t with her friend. It’s nice to see a movie that shows girls and guys can be best friends without the benefit angle.

The movie sparked a good conversation with my 16 year old as well because it gave me the opportunity to talk to her about her expectations of her friends. In the past we have talked to her about cutting people out of her life due to the kids not making the same decisions she would have made. The movie centers around two friends who are living their lives by rules that they made up when they were much younger. It covers a range of issues that teenagers go through today such as sex, acceptance, loyalty, and maintaining friendships. It has a rating for children 14 and up, but I feel like if you are in the room with your children, a 12 yr old or 13 yr old might be able to see it. I would have to rank it up there when we are talking about teen movies. Netflix hit the mark with this one!

I also viewed Sierra Burgess Is a Loser and I’m loving it. Netflix is giving our children good positive programming. This movie dealt with Sierra being involved in a catfishing plot. It also showcased bullying and the face behind the bully. I feel like this is a good movie for children who are at odds with who they are. Sierra Burgess Is a Loser shows children how true acceptance helps to navigate life’s problems and outcomes. Sierra was dealing with something that a lot of children deal with, she wasn’t sure of who she was or what she wanted to become. She let her outer appearance shy her away from relationships until her friend makes her deal with her deception head on. I do not want to ruin the movie, but this would be a great movie for kids having self confidence issues.

Another thing I loved about this movie was that is showed how real friends will not agree with everything you do. It showcased how friendship can come in different ways and how it can blossom from different avenues. The movie also dealt with the reason people react the way they do, in regards to bullying. I think it’s important that our children understand that everyone has good in them, but sometimes we need to dig a little deeper before we pass judgement. This is a great movie that will allow you to spark up a conversation about bullying and how your children are feeling. Sadly, that’s all I have. I’m seeing maybe 40 percent of this because I do not know where I placed my glasses. So, I’m off, I need those glasses!!!

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I Love You Netflix, But…

Netflix has come a long with their programming. I’ve been able to discover some great shows that I wouldn’t have known about if it hadn’t been for Netflix. I’m a lover of British shows, Science Fiction and sometimes Romance with a splash of Drama. I super love Netflix Originals! So, I’ve decided to do something new with October. For each day in October, I will be watching a Netflix Original.

Yesterday I viewed “Hold the Dark” which started off interesting, but quickly grew confusing. I love Jeffrey Wright, so I was super thrilled when I found out he played one of the main characters in the movie. Sadly, I do not feel like the movie explained enough. The setting takes place in some remote village in Alaska. The imagery is beautiful, the actors and actresses are okay, but the plot leaves me shaking my head. I’m halfway wondering if there is a book on the movie.

In the beginning of the movie Mr. Wright’s character is contacted by a grieving mother. At that point the movie seems to be promising. It looks like we are going to see him venture off into the wilderness in search for a coven of wolves. There’s an adventure on the horizon that will yield answers, at least that was my thought. Then from out of nowhere the mother lets her secret out of the bag. There’s no explanation for her secret. Then the father arrives, and things get even crazier. He goes off on a rampage that doesn’t make any sense. I do not want to give the movie away, so I will not write step by step details, but I wouldn’t watch it again.

In the end, this original seemed rushed. The characters weren’t rounded enough for me to invest in them and the reasons behind the events didn’t make sense. I’m still trying to figure out what was the reason behind the events that took place. I wanted to like the movie because it was relatable for the first 20 minutes, but then it went to the left. So I would have to say “Hold the Dark” was disappointing, but never fear, I have a month’s worth of new programming to try. The Kissing Booth will be viewed next.

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