The Undoing of a Duchess

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(FILES) In this file photo taken on July 10, 2018 (L-R) Britain’s Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, Britain’s Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Britain’s Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Britain’s Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, stand on the balcony of Buckingham Palace to watch a military fly-past to mark the centenary of the Royal Air Force (RAF). – Britain’s Prince Harry said he and his brother Prince William were on “different paths” and admitted occasional tension in their relationship. The Duke of Sussex, 35, has been plagued by rumours of a growing rift between him and 37-year-old William, and he acknowledged that “inevitably stuff happens” given their high-profile roles in the royal family. In an interview with ITV television filmed during his recent tour of southern Africa with his wife Meghan, Harry said: “We are brothers. We will always be brothers. (Photo by Tolga AKMEN / AFP) (Photo by TOLGA AKMEN/AFP via Getty Images)

It turns out some traditions transcend centuries when it comes to royalty. Read any romance novel, and you will often see the romantic notion of royalty choosing love over duty fantasized, time and time again. Yet, in reality, some of these traditions have been around since the beginning of time, which makes them harder to break. Prince Harry and Meghan Markel’s relationship showcased the ugly side of acceptance from perhaps both worlds.

Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t always come with acceptance, and perhaps we thought those days were long gone. For those of us that thought those days were over, we soon saw the truth of acceptance. Duchess Meghan and Prince Harry’s relationship soon produced hatred pouring out from various sides of the globe. Which all seemed to start at home base, the UK.

I am sure most of us saw red flags shortly after the honeymoon ended. There were indicators of how the press would either accept or try to tear the couple apart. The was no time wasted comparing hair, clothing, and anything else that the press chose to go after between the two duchesses. The problem with the new couple was that their relationship wasn’t something that could be just theirs. Prince Harry’s life had often been played on the national stage as a real-life docuseries.

So, with all eyes on Prince Harry and his new wife, the nation sat by and watched the press try to undo the Duchess of Sussex. We saw the tears, embarrassment, and sadness in her eyes on multiple occasions. I often wondered what encounters produced such reactions prior to her public outings with the family. Could none of these situations be handled privately after the public appearance to help her save face? It was so blatant and heart-wrenching, considering the fantasy we all wanted to see play out.

From problems with Meghan’s family, allegations of bullying, renovating, cooking, her taste in clothing, all the way to how she held her son, nothing was off-limits. It soon became clear that she could do no right. Instead of the royal family circling around her to try to promote a safe environment, it appeared that they often tried to distance themselves from the drama. It was hard to tell what was staged after a while, and what was no longer staged.

The Duchess of Sussex couldn’t escape the black trap. It is the trap that we often feel in the middle of living life, which restricts us from being human. So, Meghan having emotions, thoughts, reactions that many would see as normal; would be abnormal due to her race. Finally, she gets the chance to do something she has never been able to do. She gets the chance to speak out.

We are living in a different time due to our easy access to news and public relationships. Words hurt and they also travel fast today. Some might see Meghan’s words as a betrayal, but many including myself see it as a right. We have the right to stand up for ourselves, and if you ask me, having her stay silent because she is a duchess sounds sexist. This is 2021!

This is no longer 1587 when royal women were restricted from being able to control their own bodies. We are living in a modernized era with modern ideas. Meghan’s voice is the voice of strength, guidance, and direction for those of us who feel silenced. If racism is ever to be cast aside, we have to stand up for those who have been mistreated. Even if those people are duchesses. So, in the end, just to clear things up! Meghan Markel will always be the duchess with or without the title in our hearts. No matter the outcome of the interview, we will stand beside her, because We Are Meghan!

Smear Campaign Launched, But We Are Not Buying It! America To The Rescue For Prince Henry & The Duchess.

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It now seems as though we’re witnessing a full-out character assassination of OUR Duchess Meghan Markle from across the pond. As Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan’s interview approaches, we are now hearing about more stories that are all shifting negative energy on the couple. With the new baby on the way, one has to wonder if all the negative press endangers the unborn child.

This is yet another sad chapter in the Fairy Tale wedding that so many of us wanted to see produce a better future for racial relations. Europe often looked like the big brother or sister that the United States needed when it came to historical issues on race. Yet, after Prince Harry married his Duchess, things changed. Europe went from looking like a haven of open-minded thinkers to a country with arrogant attitudes regarding who was good enough to be a Royal.

It is sad, but given the day we live, it isn’t surprising. While we are a world skating on the brink of change, we are also fearful of change. There is one thing that will never change, and that is the fact that Meghan will always be Harry’s wife. No matter what changes in the future, even if their titles get caught up in this scandal, they will still have each other. Not only will they have each other, but they will have us.

We are the ones who watched Prince Harry grow and blossom into the man we see today. Meghan is the topping and the extra moisture needed to bake the best cake ever! {Sorry, tomorrow is my 24th anniversary! Cake on the brain!} She is outspoken, smart, and an inspiration to women across the world. I am sure things might feel a little uncomfortable right now but rest assured, The Duchess of Sussex will do great things for the United States as well as the UK if she is allowed. Instead of silencing her, maybe they should have thought of a better way to use her light and bring unity across the globe.

It’s too bad the crown didn’t use Meghan’s popularity to push better programs and unity. I am glad to see her back in the United States because it was heart-wrenching to watch her struggle so publicly with treatment from those who should have been tasked with making her feel right at home. Thank God, Meghan’s home.

Trying To Explain The Need For A Quarantine To Kids

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We have been under a shelter-in-place order for weeks now. Weeks feel like months for some reason. So when it rained today, I got really excited and so did the girls. Maybe the rain symbolized some degree of normalcy. The smell was familiar the feeling was comforting and then reality set in. The things we once found annoying were now the things that we missed the most.

The little quaint store I promised to take my youngest child to might not be there if we all make it through this ordeal. As I was thinking about all the little things I missed, my youngest child asked about going over to her friend’s house. She talked about how much she missed her and didn’t think it would be a big deal if she or her friend came to visit.

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So, I asked her if she understood who stood more of a chance of dying due to complications from the coronavirus. She was like old people are the ones who have to worry not me. She is 14 and the picture of healthy. I then pulled up this picture and asked if she recalled taking it.

Taken about 5 yrs ago.

She started laughing and said she remembered the picture and the blanket she got at the hospital. I then informed her that she was one of the people in the danger zone for COVID-19. Due to her frequent bronchitis attacks when she was younger, her lungs were weakened. I then explained that COVID-19 attacks the lungs and for people like her, that attack could be fatal.

Now some of you might think that being that direct with children causes a panic, but it actually explains the virus and the need to quarantine. While my 14 yr old is smart and her own person, she is still a child who needs my protection. If your children are starting to wear you down about seeing their friends because the shelter-in-place order is taking too long, tell them why it is taking long. We owe it to our children to protect them from danger and sometimes that danger might by themselves.

Stumbling On Hidden Truths : Meghan And Harry

Welcome to my blog once again and today we’re going to talk about my girl: Meghan markle AKA Duchess of our Hearts!

Love!!

As many of you have probably found out by now Meghan Markle and her husband Prince Harry have decided take a few inches back from the royal lifestyle. If you have followed the monarchy like I have, then you know Queen Elizabeth II has a lineage of relationships built on love.

From Queen Victoria I to Queen Elizabeth II love has been a common theme in this family. If you are wondering how or why Queen Elizabeth II gave approval for Meghan markle and Prince Harry to live outside of the throne look no further then her father’s brother who was once King of England.

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It should come as no surprise that Prince Harry is committed to that same kind of unyielding love when it comes to his wife and child. I think people forget the Prince Harry it’s not directly in line for the throne. Since Prince William has two small sons it really takes a lot of the pressure off of Harry and lets him focus more on his lifestyle.

There are people who are very upset about the couple’s wish to move outside of tradition. I support the Queens opinion on the situation because everybody have a light. Perhaps Prince Harry and Meghan’s light will be better shown outside of the UK.

In my opinion, both Meghan and Harry are doing what’s necessary to raise her son in a therapeutic environment. I often wonder about our president’s children and how they fair. We watch the children of our presidents mature whole terms, sometimes up to 8 years.

Do we even know of their descendants today?

In case of royal families their children never seem to get out of the spotlight, imagine how damning that can be if the spotlight seems to be frequently jaded? For a lot of people, I think the UK seems like it was a Utopia for minorities, if you are not from the UK. According to the history books slavery ended in the European countries before it ever ended in the United States. We even had black people who went to live abroad to get away from hate crimes here at home.

I think the treatment that Meghan Markle has received has been somewhat shocking for Americans due to our perceptions on the UK. The media from the onslaught of Megan’s pregnancy down to probably the last 24 hours has been nothing but critical of Meghan Markle and Harry. I know people don’t want to use the term bullying because bullying is such a ugly word, but the media has been vicious. I’ve not seen the type of treatment The Duchess and the Duke of Sussex encountered passed on any other member of the Royal family.

Ironically, this was the family who could survive such a feat due to their strong history of listening to their hearts. In a way, we are just watching history repeat itself! Love gives us the courage to move when others would have been immobilized in sorrow.