Would You Be Open TO An Arranged Marriage?

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In America, we do not often hear or have to think about arranged marriages. We pretty much, for the most part, marry for love. As marriages have now been on the decline for a few decades, one has to wonder about the future of marriage. Are we looking at a future that shuns the union of marriage? https://www.jec.senate.gov/public/index.cfm/republicans/2020/4/marriage-rate-blog-test

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What happens to those people who still want to get married when a majority of people now lean towards the “not for me” lane? Do they write off their dreams of being a wife or a husband, or do they sign up for shows like the ones we see on Netflix and TLC?

Shows like Married at First Sight and Love is Blind are similar to arranged marriages. Instead of family members picking the potential bride and groom, a TV show does the picking. When I say arranged marriages, I am not talking about forced marriages. A forced marriage is when one or both parties have no say in getting married.

A forced marriage would be sort of like my marriage! I was standing in front of the judge, with retreat written all over my face. I looked at my husband, and then I looked back at my cousin. She was the one who paid for my wedding dress, so she was invested! She mouthed the famous words “I WIll KICK YOUR ASS,” so I politely turned back around and spit out the two little words, which started the rest of my life.

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In the seconds before she threatened me with bodily harm, I was about to go the bathroom and never come back! I look back at that day and laugh! Little did I know, I would still be with my husband 23 years later. While I would not recommend getting forced into marriage, I would recommend signing up for some of the shows like Love is Blind or Married at First Sight.

Maybe arranged marriages can help to revamp the union before it fades into the background.

Fellow Americans, Before You Go

Today many of you are supposed to be completing a mission. I would challenge you to focus on the most important mission. We were put on this earth to help bring light to the world.

Some of you are confused right now and some are seeking for answers, but remember that God works in mysterious ways. What you needed last year might be something you no longer need today. Elections are hard , and this one has proven to be one of the hardest in recent memory.

However, this election shouldn’t challenge your heart, risk your safety, or endanger others. It is okay to be upset, but remember we are commanded to not let the sun go down while we are in that state of mind. Ephesians 4: 26 ‘”Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”

Instead of getting mad you should pray about it. Anger has the power to do one or two things, it can change for the better or destroy. Ask yourself , does this anger destroy?

If your anger destroys, God isn’t in it. God’s greatest commandment is surrounded around love.

29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a]30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[b](C)31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[c](D) There is no commandment greater than these.”

That means we must love and then love some more. When we feel weak and hurt, once again dig deep and love harder. It means we love no matter the political party, race, religion or sexual orientation.

Lastly, we Christians know that there is a season for all things.

Matthew 7 : 21-23 Not everyone who (B)says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will (C)enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who (D)does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 (E)On that day (F)many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not (G)prophesy in your name, and cast out demons (H)in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 (I)And then will I declare to them, ‘I (J)never knew you; (K)depart from me, (L)you workers of lawlessness.’

Don’t let this be the last time the world sees your shining face. Trust in God and remember God does everything for a reason.

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What Republicans Are Being Told To Fear Is Nothing Compared To Real Life

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“Character is that which reveals moral purpose, exposing the class of things a man chooses or avoids.” – Aristotle

While driving home after grabbing a present for my daughter, something caught my attention. There we were waiting at the light when a radio personality came on talking about AOC. I do not know his name, and I do not care to find out his name. However, I can tell you he was filling in for Rush Limbaugh.

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So, he starts talking about how the Democrats are trying to take values, take religious rights, and pretty much take everything, let him tell it. So, I wanted to explore this attitude a little today. When Obama was in office, I didn’t love God any less, I didn’t lose my will to attend a mass gathering at churches, and I didn’t lose the ability to see the good in people. If anything, President Obama inspired me to put myself out there a little more.

The same can be said for Bush and the ones before him. I never felt like I was under assault. For the most part, people did what they could for each other and minded their business. Were there issues, of course! There has never been an administration that didn’t come with its own set of issues. However, the issues never bled down to me personally.

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During Trump’s time in office, I felt fearful of things that I used to do regularly. Going to the park is something that I have often loved. If I am with my children nowadays, I find myself cautiously looking around, fearing crazy people. I no longer have my windows down out of fear of some racist coming up beside me and doing the unthinkable. I have chronic sinuses, so wearing my mask is a new must. I have found that it helps prevent headaches that keep me sick for days, if not weeks. I fear what will happen after COVID goes away, and I still wear my mask. Will people see it as a political statement, or will they leave me alone so I can enjoy the outdoors without being locked inside?

If you want to talk about what someone has taken away, I would bring to your attention how Trump has taken away the ability to just be. Who knows what the person wants to be! Trump’s administration has produced zealot like people. These people are the ones who have caused problems throughout history. They are often cloaked in garments of the church, yet in reality, they are not the church. They are people who hold on to part of the word of God and focus on other parts that help them to gain control of certain groups. Some examples would be the religious leaders behind the witch trials, the people behind the Inquisition in Spain, and Zealots.

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On top of the problematic religious groups that have come up from the Trump movement, we have COVID. COVID-19 has taken away the lives of over 340,000 people and obliterated incomes for millions. People have gone from owning homes to moving back home with their family members. How can anyone sit here and possibly compare a “who knows” scenario with a real breakdown of everyday life?

What does a vote for Trump Mean This Time Around?

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There will come a time in the near future that requires our attention to detail. It will require our knowledge of the past as well as our ability to judge our future based on the present. Today we are standing at the edge of a cliff as a country. We are neither bad or good by default. Most of us are strong willed people with great values. We hold those values close to our heart. We all come from different walks of life and have different views of what it takes to be a good citizen. However, in order to truly protect our country we must accept the need for a different path.

By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.

Confucius

This is perhaps one of my favorite quotes of all time because it shows the need to grow. Reflection is thinking about things we have done, or that will be done. It is almost like a set of directions that one must understand before they are able to put those directions into play. It reminds me of the time when my husband and I were stationed at our second duty station. We had just purchased our first bookshelf. I was very excited because I had never had a bookshelf. There we were excited to the max over owning our first bookshelf. Jon took it inside and pulled out the instructions.

After what seemed like hours, we finally had our bookshelf. He took the time to reflect or study the directions. It looked just like the picture on the box. If we were judging by imitation, the bookcase was a success. However, after we placed our first few books in the top shelf our bookcase shattered to the ground. It looked sturdy, ideal and perfect without any defect. Yet, our best efforts had proven to be a little lacking. Jon thought he could memorize the details of the directions which was our downfall.

Voting is a little like putting together a really expensive bookcase. In order to understand the person you are looking to place into office, you must understand their ability to reason for the betterment of the people. It is easy to stand and say all the right words especially when they are given to you. You might even be able to imitate ruling to some degree until a situation calls for the heart of a real leader. In those moments that a country barely stands, a leader is needed to pull them up. COVID-19 brought us and other nations to our knees. Our leader did not lead because he did not have the experience in dealing with a country in crisis mode. Our cabinets have rarely been manned properly since he has been on office due to high turnover rates. Perhaps, this is how one can run a business, but this is not how one runs a country.

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We are living in the aftermath of voting Trump in office. We are experiencing what it feels like to have him as a leader in a crisis situation. I am speaking from my heart to your heart when I say this. Our brothers, sisters, mothers and fathers did not die on battlefields so that we would give this great country over to wealth and privilege. We won our freedom from people like Trump many years ago, so it is time to remember the dream. America must not be allowed to drift into a deep sleep under any man or leader. Trump has shown how he feels about the less fortunate. https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-coronavirus-new-york-lawsuit/judge-voids-trump-administration-restrictions-on-coronavirus-sick-leave-idUSKCN24Z1Y6