The Undoing of a Duchess

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(FILES) In this file photo taken on July 10, 2018 (L-R) Britain’s Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, Britain’s Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Britain’s Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Britain’s Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, stand on the balcony of Buckingham Palace to watch a military fly-past to mark the centenary of the Royal Air Force (RAF). – Britain’s Prince Harry said he and his brother Prince William were on “different paths” and admitted occasional tension in their relationship. The Duke of Sussex, 35, has been plagued by rumours of a growing rift between him and 37-year-old William, and he acknowledged that “inevitably stuff happens” given their high-profile roles in the royal family. In an interview with ITV television filmed during his recent tour of southern Africa with his wife Meghan, Harry said: “We are brothers. We will always be brothers. (Photo by Tolga AKMEN / AFP) (Photo by TOLGA AKMEN/AFP via Getty Images)

It turns out some traditions transcend centuries when it comes to royalty. Read any romance novel, and you will often see the romantic notion of royalty choosing love over duty fantasized, time and time again. Yet, in reality, some of these traditions have been around since the beginning of time, which makes them harder to break. Prince Harry and Meghan Markel’s relationship showcased the ugly side of acceptance from perhaps both worlds.

Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t always come with acceptance, and perhaps we thought those days were long gone. For those of us that thought those days were over, we soon saw the truth of acceptance. Duchess Meghan and Prince Harry’s relationship soon produced hatred pouring out from various sides of the globe. Which all seemed to start at home base, the UK.

I am sure most of us saw red flags shortly after the honeymoon ended. There were indicators of how the press would either accept or try to tear the couple apart. The was no time wasted comparing hair, clothing, and anything else that the press chose to go after between the two duchesses. The problem with the new couple was that their relationship wasn’t something that could be just theirs. Prince Harry’s life had often been played on the national stage as a real-life docuseries.

So, with all eyes on Prince Harry and his new wife, the nation sat by and watched the press try to undo the Duchess of Sussex. We saw the tears, embarrassment, and sadness in her eyes on multiple occasions. I often wondered what encounters produced such reactions prior to her public outings with the family. Could none of these situations be handled privately after the public appearance to help her save face? It was so blatant and heart-wrenching, considering the fantasy we all wanted to see play out.

From problems with Meghan’s family, allegations of bullying, renovating, cooking, her taste in clothing, all the way to how she held her son, nothing was off-limits. It soon became clear that she could do no right. Instead of the royal family circling around her to try to promote a safe environment, it appeared that they often tried to distance themselves from the drama. It was hard to tell what was staged after a while, and what was no longer staged.

The Duchess of Sussex couldn’t escape the black trap. It is the trap that we often feel in the middle of living life, which restricts us from being human. So, Meghan having emotions, thoughts, reactions that many would see as normal; would be abnormal due to her race. Finally, she gets the chance to do something she has never been able to do. She gets the chance to speak out.

We are living in a different time due to our easy access to news and public relationships. Words hurt and they also travel fast today. Some might see Meghan’s words as a betrayal, but many including myself see it as a right. We have the right to stand up for ourselves, and if you ask me, having her stay silent because she is a duchess sounds sexist. This is 2021!

This is no longer 1587 when royal women were restricted from being able to control their own bodies. We are living in a modernized era with modern ideas. Meghan’s voice is the voice of strength, guidance, and direction for those of us who feel silenced. If racism is ever to be cast aside, we have to stand up for those who have been mistreated. Even if those people are duchesses. So, in the end, just to clear things up! Meghan Markel will always be the duchess with or without the title in our hearts. No matter the outcome of the interview, we will stand beside her, because We Are Meghan!

Would You Be Open TO An Arranged Marriage?

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In America, we do not often hear or have to think about arranged marriages. We pretty much, for the most part, marry for love. As marriages have now been on the decline for a few decades, one has to wonder about the future of marriage. Are we looking at a future that shuns the union of marriage? https://www.jec.senate.gov/public/index.cfm/republicans/2020/4/marriage-rate-blog-test

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What happens to those people who still want to get married when a majority of people now lean towards the “not for me” lane? Do they write off their dreams of being a wife or a husband, or do they sign up for shows like the ones we see on Netflix and TLC?

Shows like Married at First Sight and Love is Blind are similar to arranged marriages. Instead of family members picking the potential bride and groom, a TV show does the picking. When I say arranged marriages, I am not talking about forced marriages. A forced marriage is when one or both parties have no say in getting married.

A forced marriage would be sort of like my marriage! I was standing in front of the judge, with retreat written all over my face. I looked at my husband, and then I looked back at my cousin. She was the one who paid for my wedding dress, so she was invested! She mouthed the famous words “I WIll KICK YOUR ASS,” so I politely turned back around and spit out the two little words, which started the rest of my life.

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In the seconds before she threatened me with bodily harm, I was about to go the bathroom and never come back! I look back at that day and laugh! Little did I know, I would still be with my husband 23 years later. While I would not recommend getting forced into marriage, I would recommend signing up for some of the shows like Love is Blind or Married at First Sight.

Maybe arranged marriages can help to revamp the union before it fades into the background.

Fellow Americans, Before You Go

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Today many of you are supposed to be completing a mission. I would challenge you to focus on the most important mission. We were put on this earth to help bring light to the world.

Some of you are confused right now and some are seeking for answers, but remember that God works in mysterious ways. What you needed last year might be something you no longer need today. Elections are hard , and this one has proven to be one of the hardest in recent memory.

However, this election shouldn’t challenge your heart, risk your safety, or endanger others. It is okay to be upset, but remember we are commanded to not let the sun go down while we are in that state of mind. Ephesians 4: 26 ‘”Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”

Instead of getting mad you should pray about it. Anger has the power to do one or two things, it can change for the better or destroy. Ask yourself , does this anger destroy?

If your anger destroys, God isn’t in it. God’s greatest commandment is surrounded around love.

29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a]30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[b](C)31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[c](D) There is no commandment greater than these.”

That means we must love and then love some more. When we feel weak and hurt, once again dig deep and love harder. It means we love no matter the political party, race, religion or sexual orientation.

Lastly, we Christians know that there is a season for all things.

Matthew 7 : 21-23 Not everyone who (B)says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will (C)enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who (D)does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 (E)On that day (F)many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not (G)prophesy in your name, and cast out demons (H)in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 (I)And then will I declare to them, ‘I (J)never knew you; (K)depart from me, (L)you workers of lawlessness.’

Don’t let this be the last time the world sees your shining face. Trust in God and remember God does everything for a reason.

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What Republicans Are Being Told To Fear Is Nothing Compared To Real Life

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“Character is that which reveals moral purpose, exposing the class of things a man chooses or avoids.” – Aristotle

While driving home after grabbing a present for my daughter, something caught my attention. There we were waiting at the light when a radio personality came on talking about AOC. I do not know his name, and I do not care to find out his name. However, I can tell you he was filling in for Rush Limbaugh.

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So, he starts talking about how the Democrats are trying to take values, take religious rights, and pretty much take everything, let him tell it. So, I wanted to explore this attitude a little today. When Obama was in office, I didn’t love God any less, I didn’t lose my will to attend a mass gathering at churches, and I didn’t lose the ability to see the good in people. If anything, President Obama inspired me to put myself out there a little more.

The same can be said for Bush and the ones before him. I never felt like I was under assault. For the most part, people did what they could for each other and minded their business. Were there issues, of course! There has never been an administration that didn’t come with its own set of issues. However, the issues never bled down to me personally.

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During Trump’s time in office, I felt fearful of things that I used to do regularly. Going to the park is something that I have often loved. If I am with my children nowadays, I find myself cautiously looking around, fearing crazy people. I no longer have my windows down out of fear of some racist coming up beside me and doing the unthinkable. I have chronic sinuses, so wearing my mask is a new must. I have found that it helps prevent headaches that keep me sick for days, if not weeks. I fear what will happen after COVID goes away, and I still wear my mask. Will people see it as a political statement, or will they leave me alone so I can enjoy the outdoors without being locked inside?

If you want to talk about what someone has taken away, I would bring to your attention how Trump has taken away the ability to just be. Who knows what the person wants to be! Trump’s administration has produced zealot like people. These people are the ones who have caused problems throughout history. They are often cloaked in garments of the church, yet in reality, they are not the church. They are people who hold on to part of the word of God and focus on other parts that help them to gain control of certain groups. Some examples would be the religious leaders behind the witch trials, the people behind the Inquisition in Spain, and Zealots.

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On top of the problematic religious groups that have come up from the Trump movement, we have COVID. COVID-19 has taken away the lives of over 340,000 people and obliterated incomes for millions. People have gone from owning homes to moving back home with their family members. How can anyone sit here and possibly compare a “who knows” scenario with a real breakdown of everyday life?