Birthday From Hell Because $100 Bucks Was Too Little

It is a little after three in the morning, and I am still reeling from my daughter’s birthday. In my family, we have a tradition. Every birthday person gets a certain amount of money and their special day. However, after 12 AM hits, all bets are off.

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Well, since COVID-19 happened, we had to cut back on somethings. This year we put in place a $100 maximum per birthday. Last month was the 15-year old’s birthday, and she lost 50 of her 100 at the mall. A typical birthday is celebrated all day until midnight. Every single person in the family watches the shows that are picked by the birthday girl or boy. It can be hell day for the ones of us who hate anime, or horror shows because you can bet one of those two will be on the menu. However, most of the time the birthday person picks a meal that the entire family likes which makes up for the horrible shows!!!!

The entire week including on the 27th, my daughter was adamant about not wanting 100 bucks because she said it wouldn’t buy anything. She wanted $200 and insisted that we fork over $200 or nothing at all. I informed her; that she was headed for a rude awakening, but she insisted that she would not be part of any celebrations if we gave her 100.

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So, yesterday came, and I didn’t give her anything. She woke up, and it pretty much went downhill from there. She didn’t want to watch anything; she wanted to argue the entire time. I went into my room and shut the door. Hours later, she was ready to be civil, she was happy to finish her day off with cake and dinner.

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I told my husband that I wasn’t sure about not giving her the money but that she needed to understand the meaning of gratefulness. I explained to her that there is a country full of people who cannot even get a pack of chicken for dinner, but she had the nerve to stick her nose up at $100 bucks because it wasn’t enough. Part of me feels bad about not giving it to her, but the other part feels like she got the message. Afterward, when she asked if maybe we would think about giving it to her later, it looked like she understood that it was a blessing instead of a big fat nothing. It was a hard day, but I think it a lesson in humility was needed. People do what they can , and it is a blessing no matter the gift.

Protecting Life Is A must

No matter how much we might disagree on things, we must always understand that this election is about a lot more than red and blue. It is about lives being lost because people deemed some to be less important than others. At the end of the day it is about saving families from having to see their loved ones sick.

Once upon a time, the only thing we had to worry about was immigration arguments, arguments over abortion, religion, and the right to choose a lover. While to some of us, these things might still be very valid issues, there is another issue today that blankets all of the issues above. It is the right to live in a COVID free environment. We are fighting for the right to live in a country without ongoing violence. Our leadership is lacking in so many different directions right now. We have rioting that has now gone on for months, attacks from various groups within America on other citizens.

Instead of seeing leadership that aims to calm the storm, we see people still stoking the flames. Just as my sister and her husband are home with COVID today, it could be yours tomorrow. How do we prevent more cases in the future? This election has to focus on healing our country. If we vote for anything less than making this country whole again, we are co-signing our own destruction.

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What does a vote for Trump Mean This Time Around?

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There will come a time in the near future that requires our attention to detail. It will require our knowledge of the past as well as our ability to judge our future based on the present. Today we are standing at the edge of a cliff as a country. We are neither bad or good by default. Most of us are strong willed people with great values. We hold those values close to our heart. We all come from different walks of life and have different views of what it takes to be a good citizen. However, in order to truly protect our country we must accept the need for a different path.

By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.

Confucius

This is perhaps one of my favorite quotes of all time because it shows the need to grow. Reflection is thinking about things we have done, or that will be done. It is almost like a set of directions that one must understand before they are able to put those directions into play. It reminds me of the time when my husband and I were stationed at our second duty station. We had just purchased our first bookshelf. I was very excited because I had never had a bookshelf. There we were excited to the max over owning our first bookshelf. Jon took it inside and pulled out the instructions.

After what seemed like hours, we finally had our bookshelf. He took the time to reflect or study the directions. It looked just like the picture on the box. If we were judging by imitation, the bookcase was a success. However, after we placed our first few books in the top shelf our bookcase shattered to the ground. It looked sturdy, ideal and perfect without any defect. Yet, our best efforts had proven to be a little lacking. Jon thought he could memorize the details of the directions which was our downfall.

Voting is a little like putting together a really expensive bookcase. In order to understand the person you are looking to place into office, you must understand their ability to reason for the betterment of the people. It is easy to stand and say all the right words especially when they are given to you. You might even be able to imitate ruling to some degree until a situation calls for the heart of a real leader. In those moments that a country barely stands, a leader is needed to pull them up. COVID-19 brought us and other nations to our knees. Our leader did not lead because he did not have the experience in dealing with a country in crisis mode. Our cabinets have rarely been manned properly since he has been on office due to high turnover rates. Perhaps, this is how one can run a business, but this is not how one runs a country.

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We are living in the aftermath of voting Trump in office. We are experiencing what it feels like to have him as a leader in a crisis situation. I am speaking from my heart to your heart when I say this. Our brothers, sisters, mothers and fathers did not die on battlefields so that we would give this great country over to wealth and privilege. We won our freedom from people like Trump many years ago, so it is time to remember the dream. America must not be allowed to drift into a deep sleep under any man or leader. Trump has shown how he feels about the less fortunate. https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-coronavirus-new-york-lawsuit/judge-voids-trump-administration-restrictions-on-coronavirus-sick-leave-idUSKCN24Z1Y6

Three Years Ago Seems Like Forever

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Do you remember what you were doing three years ago? I was getting used to my new surroundings and trying to mend my relationship with my children. We were talking about border security, health care, and a healthy economy. Then, out of nowhere COVID-19 came and changed the conversation.

It changed the way we celebrated life, mourned death and prepared for the afterlife in many ways. The old conversations no longer made any sense. The arguments over border security were pushed to the back of the room because we had a new problem. We had an enemy so lethal that it would push into our living rooms and tear at the very heart of America.

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COVID-19 changed the way we lived, loved and hated one another. It taught us that we often thrive and decline as one. We are stronger together and that holds true from the entire country.Just as family members who hadn’t spoken in years rushed to call each other and ask about their estranged member’s well-being, we must act in a similar manner towards each other.

I remind you again to pick up your phones and reach out to those you love. We might not know what tomorrow brings, but we know what this second can gift. We are together in this and married to this situation for better or worse. The only thing we can do at this point is build a protective wall around those we love. That protective wall includes sensible thinking and a protective spirit for our brothers and sisters.