- Year One- Sex wasn’t the answer to all things.-Killeen, Texas.
- Year Two- Setting the alarm 30 minutes early was the key. Killeen, Texas.
- Year Three- My husband was a wonderful father. Fort Irwin, California.
- Year Four- Being pregnant sucks! Fort Irwin, California.
- Year Five- Living in a different country is easy when you are with your husband. Baumholder, Germany.
- Year Six- Nothing like the absence of your husband at your mother’s funeral because of war. Garland, Texas.
- Year Seven- Taking down welcome home signs after you learn your husband’s unit will be the first to stay beyond the allotted time in a war zone. Baumholder, Germany
- Year Eight- The only way to get out of the vasectomy after this pregnancy is over my dead body. Baumholder, Germany.
- Year Nine- Admitting that I didn’t know all I thought I knew about marriage. Savannah, GA.
- Year Ten- Dealing with addiction and remorse. Savannah, GA.
- Year Eleven- Talking to divorce lawyers because some situations are just too hard to deal with. Garland, Texas
- Year Twelve- Having to look my husband in the face and deal with our demons without being able to walk away. Clarksville, Tennessee
- Year Thirteen- Starting over. El Paso, Texas
- Year Fourteen- Being there through a tough surgery. El Paso, Texas.
- Year fifteen- Finally figuring out the Army was more of a hindrance to our family. El Paso, Texas
- Year Sixteen- Living with family members suck more than you know. Garland, Texas
- Year Seventeen- Nothing like being back on your own. Garland, Texas
- Year Eighteen- Transitioning from parents of young kids to parents of children old enough to date. Garland, Texas
- Year Nineteen- Being thankful that my husband was able to be there with me through my father’s death. Garland, Texas
- Year twenty- Finding my own calling is the key to my happiness. Garland, Texas
- Year twenty-One- Making sure we never forget those special nights. Garland, Texas
- Year Twenty-Two- Understand that life doesn’t last forever, so enjoy each other while you can. Somewhere in Texas!
I’ve been married for almost 22 years come next month. Sometimes marriage can be easy, but then there are times when it can be very hard. Yet, I wouldn’t trade either times because they make us who we are. I got married at a very early age. My husband and I were both 20 and we got married not because we were in love, but because we hated the idea of dating.
Dating was horrible for me, I didn’t like dealing with people who had a slight allergic reaction to the truth, so I had all but sworn dating off, until I met my husband. I remember telling him at the tender age of 19 that I wanted to get married and that I wasn’t into dating for six months to a year because those people never got married. Yes, it is safe to say, I knew it all!!!
After the wedding “Courthouse” I soon departed the DFW to start my life as my husband’s wife. We dated only three and half months, so we really didn’t know each other as we should have. On our way to Killeen, Texas we got into an argument about race relations. Jon isn’t African American and my experiences with race were totally foreign to him. So, here we are on our way to our new place and a conversation on race starts.
He talked about being sick of hearing black people use the race card and then my ears started to ring. I was like oh no, my husband is a racist, and it’s against me!!!I remember asking why did he feel that way and then he blurted out, just what have black people done for this country? I looked at him and politely smiled. I then spent the next three hours explaining what inventions black people had made, social advancements, and foods that he couldn’t live without.
Looking back on those days I am thankful, God blessed me to find my best friend in my husband, and I’m grateful my husband listened to me on that ride home. On that road two things became crystal clear that afternoon. Marriage wouldn’t be simple and communication was a very important key. It took us two years to really fall in love, I know it sounds horrible, but it’s true. Our marriage started out being about commitment and then it turned into love. We now have both elements in our relationship which makes it easy to wake up to the same man every morning. I guess it’s true, marriage is what you make it.