Road Map To My 22nd Anniversary

Road Map To My 22nd Anniversary
  1. Year One- Sex wasn’t the answer to all things.-Killeen, Texas.
  2. Year Two- Setting the alarm 30 minutes early was the key. Killeen, Texas.
  3. Year Three- My husband was a wonderful father. Fort Irwin, California.
  4. Year Four- Being pregnant sucks! Fort Irwin, California.
  5. Year Five- Living in a different country is easy when you are with your husband. Baumholder, Germany.
  6. Year Six- Nothing like the absence of your husband at your mother’s funeral because of war. Garland, Texas.
  7. Year Seven- Taking down welcome home signs after you learn your husband’s unit will be the first to stay beyond the allotted time in a war zone. Baumholder, Germany
  8. Year Eight- The only way to get out of the vasectomy after this pregnancy is over my dead body. Baumholder, Germany.
  9. Year Nine- Admitting that I didn’t know all I thought I knew about marriage. Savannah, GA.
  10. Year Ten- Dealing with addiction and remorse. Savannah, GA.
  11. Year Eleven- Talking to divorce lawyers because some situations are just too hard to deal with. Garland, Texas
  12. Year Twelve- Having to look my husband in the face and deal with our demons without being able to walk away. Clarksville, Tennessee
  13. Year Thirteen- Starting over. El Paso, Texas
  14. Year Fourteen- Being there through a tough surgery. El Paso, Texas.
  15. Year fifteen- Finally figuring out the Army was more of a hindrance to our family. El Paso, Texas
  16. Year Sixteen- Living with family members suck more than you know. Garland, Texas
  17. Year Seventeen- Nothing like being back on your own. Garland, Texas
  18. Year Eighteen- Transitioning from parents of young kids to parents of children old enough to date. Garland, Texas
  19. Year Nineteen- Being thankful that my husband was able to be there with me through my father’s death. Garland, Texas
  20. Year twenty- Finding my own calling is the key to my happiness. Garland, Texas
  21. Year twenty-One- Making sure we never forget those special nights. Garland, Texas
  22. Year Twenty-Two- Understand that life doesn’t last forever, so enjoy each other while you can. Somewhere in Texas!
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Are You Throwing Away Your Inheritance?

Are You Throwing Away Your Inheritance?

Many of us have our lives figured out to some degree. Some of us plan every step down to the last inch, but what happens when our plans don’t go the way we planned? After reading a couple of articles by Mark Cuban and Warren Buffett, I think I understand why the poor stay poor. We find ourselves forever fighting the tidal waves of rent. I didn’t really think about it until after I left my last position. My family was making over 100 thousand a year, so rent wasn’t an issue. However, after I quit my job that 100 k shot down to maybe 50 k. I know some of you might be asking why would you give up that much money, well trust me when I tell you, money isn’t everything.

So, now we have to rearrange life on an income about half the size of the one before, and it has produced some soul searching. First thing I am thankful for it my daughter’s free tennis lessons from her school. She is on the tennis team and has her first game on the 22nd. We had to change car insurance companies because we could no longer afford nearly 400 dollars a month. We were able to get with another really good company for half that amount. We then had to cancel the Six Flags Membership, which was okay, because we only went to park three times and paid over a 1000 for the membership. I was able to see my daughter’s performance on Friday which was priceless. My last job made it nearly impossible to be a mom to my children. I was constantly missing meetings and events. We pretty much parked one car in the garage and currently use only one. We were able to get rid of cable and get Amazon, Netflix, and HULU which will save a lot. I found that my local grocery store has a lot of things cheaper and that my oriental store kind of sells things a littler higher. We tried to supplement our bill with fishing, but it turns out we really suck at that. I might be too hyper for that. Now, we are focusing on trying to lower the electric bill. For some reason it seems to be stuck at nearly 400 each freaking month. If we could get that down to at least 200, I would dance naked under the stars!!!!

So, after all of this, I’ve come to one conclusion. I am thankful to God for blessing me with parents who knew more than I did. Their struggles and their planning have taught me something about my own path. It only took me 41 years to learn the lesson, but at least I get it. Eight years ago we were just getting out of the military and starting life as civilians. I say we, but my husband wore the uniform. Yet, it felt like we were enlisted just as much as he was at times. We didn’t live with the mortars and near meetings with death, but I constantly dealt with the fear of the dreaded knock.

It’s funny because I wanted so badly to believe that I didn’t need my inheritance. I wanted to think that I could do things all by myself, I guess I thought that taking the gift that was left by my parents meant I was weak. I let someone rent out my house and refused to take my place as the rightful occupant on my land.  It never crossed my mind that Dukes do not turn down their Dukedoms, rich do not turn down their millions, so why was I shame of taking the land that my father so proudly showed us? Pride gives birth to failure.

It wasn’t until I did some real soul searching until I figured out just what turning my back on my inheritance meant to my family. It meant that I was cheating my girls out of an awesome life. Some of my best childhood memories were running in the woods and swinging across streams that my father and his before him used as their hunting grounds.

Another thing that gets me is the process of aging. We all die, and with that said, I feel like we are too used to moving around because of the military itch. It’s time to really build a home and not a home that some mortgage company can bill us for, I’m ready to start getting things together for a home that my children will never have to worry about paying for. We have a plan that God Willing will work out,if he sees fit! I plan to build a small cottage style house no more than 1000 square feet. The idea is to build up so we can get a bedroom upstairs, but before we can do that a few things will need to be tied up on this end.

Do you think it’s possible for life to be turned upside down so we can land on the right side of where we need to be? I feel like someone has thrown a dice and it was set to land on four, but it landed on every other number until finally it was thrown the right way. Sometimes the answer is so easy, but so hidden.

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Netflix’s “How It Ends” Makes Me Second Guess My Bad Book Review.

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So, watching How it Ends reminded me of a review I once received. I was very new to writing and thought that self publishing would be a breeze. One of my first books was The Last Love Story which I received a couple of negative reviews about and it kind of scared me away from writing for a while. I’m laughing a little right now, because at least my book explained why and how everything took place. When it comes to books dealing with the end of the world as we know it scenarios, I always find it interesting how many of us writers think so similar. My book was written before Revolution came out, so you could imagine the what what moment after I saw the first episode of Revolution! Anyway, back to the review! There are so many questions about How It Ends. What happened to Ricki, what caused the storm, and why was Kat with the creepy dude? I think the chaos level was right on point. We have seen chaos bring out the worse in people. I just feel like there’s no closure that comes at the end of this movie. I wanted to like it because it has three people whom I love to watch on the big screen, but there’s no conclusion.  I’m sorry Netflix, but this wasn’t the best movie. I have a favor on behalf of someone very special to me! She is requesting that you make a Blue Exorcist real life film because she’s in love with the anime. Thanks, and feel free to check out The Last Love Story.

 

 

I Love You Netflix, But…

Netflix has come a long with their programming. I’ve been able to discover some great shows that I wouldn’t have known about if it hadn’t been for Netflix. I’m a lover of British shows, Science Fiction and sometimes Romance with a splash of Drama. I super love Netflix Originals! So, I’ve decided to do something new with October. For each day in October, I will be watching a Netflix Original.

Yesterday I viewed “Hold the Dark” which started off interesting, but quickly grew confusing. I love Jeffrey Wright, so I was super thrilled when I found out he played one of the main characters in the movie. Sadly, I do not feel like the movie explained enough. The setting takes place in some remote village in Alaska. The imagery is beautiful, the actors and actresses are okay, but the plot leaves me shaking my head. I’m halfway wondering if there is a book on the movie.

In the beginning of the movie Mr. Wright’s character is contacted by a grieving mother. At that point the movie seems to be promising. It looks like we are going to see him venture off into the wilderness in search for a coven of wolves. There’s an adventure on the horizon that will yield answers, at least that was my thought. Then from out of nowhere the mother lets her secret out of the bag. There’s no explanation for her secret. Then the father arrives, and things get even crazier. He goes off on a rampage that doesn’t make any sense. I do not want to give the movie away, so I will not write step by step details, but I wouldn’t watch it again.

In the end, this original seemed rushed. The characters weren’t rounded enough for me to invest in them and the reasons behind the events didn’t make sense. I’m still trying to figure out what was the reason behind the events that took place. I wanted to like the movie because it was relatable for the first 20 minutes, but then it went to the left. So I would have to say “Hold the Dark” was disappointing, but never fear, I have a month’s worth of new programming to try. The Kissing Booth will be viewed next.

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Happy Birthday My Sweet Husband.

To My Loving Husband

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This is going to be cheesy and flaky, as all get out! I didn’t think a card would do justice, so I am writing you a birthday post. Today you turned 42, and I still find you as perfect as the fifth day we met!!!LOL
I never believed in the idea of a soulmate, but I knew God had someone planned for me. So even as a 15-year-old little girl writing on papers and stuffing it under my pillow, I knew you would come. Here we are both walking down that 40ish path some 21 years later. I just want to say, I love you to the last breath in my body. You are my husband, my best friend, my Ark tribe member, my encouragement, my metal pillar when I’m falling, and the love of my existence. Without you in my life, I would be a storm of crazy floating in the air, you center me. You gave me something to believe in when I didn’t have any reason to believe. You gave me friendship when I didn’t know how to give it back, and you gave me three awesome girls. Sadly with your toes!! I am just so grateful and happy to be your wife. I love you and even those toes!

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Happy Birthday!

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Fishing Boat

I'm trying to save up for the Pelican Predator 10'3 fishing boat. It's 849.00! If you know anyone in Texas who wants to gift a boat because they don't need it anymore, that would be even better. At this rate it's going to take me a long time to save up!!!

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Are You Interviewing Your Interviewer?

  Are You Interviewing Your Interviewer? 

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Interviewing is something we must all do at some point and time. It doesn’t matter if you are interviewing for your first job or your fifteenth job. The interviewing process hardly ever changes. I have noticed one common mistake that people make when they are looking for a new position and I am not talking about forgetting the resume. By now it’s safe to say we all know forgetting resumes can kill a job chance.

Yet, the other mistake I often hear about is people forgetting to interview the employer. We are so worried about the hair, clothes, shoes and pronunciation of our words that we forget the most important part of the interview. Do we know the company and what that company stands for? When my husband was stationed in Kentucky, I interviewed for a correctional officer position. Now back then I was shy and awkward. Okay, I’m still awkward, but not the shy little lady anymore! After I got off the phone with the correctional department, I found myself energized. I jumped up and went shopping for the perfect dress, shoes and prepared my greeting over and over. Finally, the interview day came. There I was standing before a group of three older men. They told me about the position and how much money the position came with, then it was my time to ask the questions.

 

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1. Do I get a gun?
Answer: No

2. Do I get mace?
Answer: No

3. Are they locked up?
Answer: You are all in an area together, but you will get a little walkie-talkie so if anything happens you can push the button for help. You will be in a room with about 50 to 100 men. This is a minimum-security prison.

4. Does that mean killers are at the maximum facility?

Answer: No. We have murderers and rapist here too.

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So, by this time, I’m mentally halfway to my car. I remember them asking for an updated phone number and me stuttering something like I’ll leave it on my way out. After the door opened, I ran to my car. I didn’t walk, I ran. I still wonder to this day, if they had me on camera. I would probably replay it repeatedly just for laughs, but I’m kind of flaky like that.

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My questions helped me predict a potential early job exit. It’s better to know what a company is about then to get a job and quit within a few weeks of working. It’s also important to know how your potential employer feels about children and parenting. Do you have small children, or do you have children with special needs? If you have either one of these situations, you will have to spend time at meetings and be on a time schedule for picking up your children. Make sure you think before you sign on that line. These things are important because the wrong job can cause a world of problems and those problems flow into your family. Make sure the next time you interview for a job, you have your questions ready. You want to know if the potential employer is a fit for your family, just like he/she needs to know that you are a fit for the company.

Fan Fiction-BTS Alison’s Work

Fishing Boat

I'm trying to save up for the Pelican Predator 10'3 fishing boat. It's 849.00! If you know anyone in Texas who wants to gift a boat because they don't need it anymore, that would be even better. At this rate it's going to take me a long time to save up!!!

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I’m sure by now, many of you have heard of the group BTS. They have inspired a movement as it seems in tweens and teens across the world. Yes, I said the world people! These boys are nearly a billion dollar group and I think it’s because they are selling love.

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My daughter explained ever so passionately that there is a difference between BTS and other groups. She stated that BTS teaches people how to love themselves no matter what. She revealed how upset she was after she broke up with her boyfriend last year, and how their music made her understand why the breakup was needed.

 

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I now present you with Alison’s part two of her BTS Fan Fiction. When I was 12 I was playing with dolls, she’s making mini movies!!