Veterans Affairs Is Still Having Issues

Today my husband got yet another diagnosis due to his injuries from being in the Army. My husband is 43 and is currently 90 percent disabled by VA standards. He can’t sit-up without something supporting his back due to an injury he got while training for Iraq. Not only is sitting an issue, but standing is an issue, walking is an issue and today we found out that sleeping is also an issue.

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He had a sleep study test that showed he stopped breathing several times within 6 hours. My husband suffers from migraines which are more than likely caused by his back issues, sleep apnea, or glacoma. Back in October the VA sent him to an examiner, they sent him to someone who knew nothing about migraines. The doctor took a look at my husband and guessed a reason he had migraines and sent him on the way.

Currently there are millions more like my husband. The VA contracts out bad physicians to do inadequate exams so they can cheat Vets out of their ratings. Currently, we are still waiting on increases, yes plural, that were granted by the BVA in August. We have yet to see a rating change or a real appointment. In November they made an appointment which was contested by another office stating there was no reason for his appointment to be placed in their location due to locations near us.

Instead of getting him a new appointment, they relied on an opinion of someone without ever talking to my husband. These are the shameful things that our VA continues to do to our soldiers. They are relying on bad examinations to cheat troops out of billions.

I issue this warning to the military. I know you love our country and some of you might even be like my husband. After he was injured he went on to do time in Iraq and even completed Green Platoon. After tours in Afghanistan, Colombia, and other regions of the world his body could no longer take it. He left the military after 14 years. Lesson learned is don’t ignore your body’s message because after all those wonderful things you complete for the military, VA will make you jump through hoops just to get the rating you deserve.

God Bless you 🙏.

My babe. I am sooo proud of him

Knowing How To Spot Munchausen Syndrome

Many of you have probably seen the show on Hulu called The Act. As an ex child abuse investigator, I have been pretty vocal on knowing what and when to report child abuse. This morning we are going to talk about learning how to report abuse and when normal isn’t normal.

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One of my most emotional cases dealt with a young mother who nearly mastered the art of deception. The case was centered around a toddler who was subject to multiple surgeries and needless test. By the time I entered the picture the mother had started keeping a visual log of photos detailing her abuse. I still remember seeing the enormous stack of photos and having a chill of sudden fear run down my spine.

I’ll never know why she kept so many photos of her son detailing every sick moment. My gut tells me that she was going to use those photos as a reason to assign death at a later date. We are talking about hundreds of photos with nothing but sickness and a detailed walk down torture lane. She knew the right words, she knew the right people, but she got a little too overconfident in the end.

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In the end I got my butt chewed off by our lawyers and the judge because I did something most investigators would never do, I went against the hospital by forcing their hand in learning the truth. When I got the case this child was slowly dying, he wasn’t gaining weight, and he was on a pure liquid diet. I had to threaten hospital social workers in order to keep him safe, but by the end of three weeks, I had all medical proof I needed.

His vitals rebounded, he gained well into the 50th percentile and he was now starting to eat by mouth. The child I saw weeks ago couldn’t sit up and he couldn’t wave at me. Now he was now able to walk around the hospital room and give me his toy trucks. We were awarded custody of him, but we couldn’t get the DA to sign off on charges of child abuse due to them not knowing much about the Munchausen Syndrome.

Two things could have saved this kid a lot of pain and heartache. The first thing is having a medical professional call in a case prior to him being nearly 4 or 5. By the time I stepped in, he had already been to quite a few hospitals. All of the doctors said they suspected something was off. They were taking notes, but the mother moved from place to place.

Correspondence is key when you are dealing with someone who suffers from this syndrome. If these hospitals would have linked up a year ago, this child would have been removed a lot sooner. Another provider stated that she felt like they were being forced into performing surgeries by the parent. The parent knew just enough medical terminology to fake symptoms and syndromes.

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This child was surrounded by medical personnel but it took years for someone to call in the abuse. Remember you work for the child. If you are an investigator , be diligent. I know the department presses you to close cases due to numbers, but life surpasses any number system. If you feel like something feels wrong, investigate it. Do not close that case until YOU are sure that child is safe.

Lastly, never assume that certain people can’t be abusers. If you saw little Todd walking and eating three months ago and now every time you see him he has a sippy cup in hand, ask why. If you babysit this child and he eats for you, but the mother swears that he can’t eat, ask why. If you still feel like something is off, call CPS. You just might be saving a life.