Today I had to report a potential school shooting and learned just how some of these situations occur. If you follow my blog, you know my children are my world. I am sure nobody wants to see their children upset, but sometimes we as parents, must push that button.
For some reason two teens have decided to talk amongst their friends about bringing guns to school because of an argument. My daughter took the- it’s not me, it’s them approach and casually brought it to my attention. I had to inform her that it very well could be you, your friends, teachers, or even a parent walking down the sidewalk. After I called the school and notified them of the situation my daughter stormed into her room.
I gave her a few minutes to calm down, and then I took her for a ride and explained , the someone knew situation. In any situation, at any given time before the crap hit the fan, someone knew. Someone unfortunately was just a little too scared to mention the situation to an adult. She responded by saying a teacher was right there when the guys were talking about bringing the gun to school and that she even told them violence was stupid. Yet, she didn’t want to report it because she feared losing her friends. I fear she isn’t the only child that gets paralyzed with fear. We talk to our children about drugs, sex, and bringing home good grades. Yet, we do not talk to our children about snuffing out the snitch culture.
We must take the time to explain to our children how important it is to always do the right thing. Kids seldom keep things to themselves and often times they talk about their plans. Some years ago some young guys were talking in the general chat area of World Of Warcraft. They talked about how they raped and killed a girl. Someone reported it and the young men were soon caught after the conversation tool place.
This is one time that I’m actually proud to be a double agent! I am the proud mom and mischievous blogger. This is also why I choose to keep my activities away from my children’s friends by writing in disguise! We learn so much from kids and it’s by that knowledge that we are able to implement better safety measures. Watch and learn.
Interracial marriages still face problems that many people do not truly understand. I think many people are under the impression that interracial marriages are fully accepted now because we see more couples in interracial relationships. However, what many people do not see is the struggles that still exist surrounding the couples on a day to day basis. Just take the gallery that I use for my blog pictures for example. There were plenty of pictures showcasing loving relationships, but hardly any of them were of interracial relationships.
When Meghan Markle married Prince Harry over a year ago many like myself were over the moon! It was a win for love and one more nail in the coffin for racism, so we thought. You see more couples that choose to marry outside of their race today, but what you do not see is the racism that comes with that choice. I recall the first time I witnessed issues stemming from my marriage some years ago. We went to a retreat near Big Bear which showcased how couples were supposed to communicate with each other. After our lessons were over, the couples would all head towards the cafeteria and mingle. My husband and I weren’t approached by anyone and to make matters worse later that night we had to share the room with a couple that seemed to be fixated on what being black meant. Later on we would get looks from others. We would also have incidents were certain people would try to pick at the spouse that wasn’t the “correct” race.
What we are seeing today with The Duchess of Sussex and The Duke of Sussex is the real face of acceptance. Nobody wants to admit to being a bigot, but with the curtains now pulled back, we are seeing that bigotry is alive and well. Don’t get me wrong, we have made advances in gaining the right to marry who we want to marry. However, attitudes are still somewhat jaded by many when it comes to interracial marriages. Do you recall the commercial that sparked a debate on interracial marriage just 6 years ago.
Pick any high profile couple that happens to be married to someone outside of their race and ugly comments are not far away. After Matthew McConaughey married Camila Alves there were comments about how he could have done so much better. Never mind she is drop dead gorgeous, but some still felt that she was not fit to be his wife because she wasn’t white. Comments were made after Serena Williams married Alexis Ohanian and so on. Anytime you see a interracial marriage, get ready to see ugly comments. People have been called race traders, nigger lovers, mud sharks, Oreo cookies, and other hurtful names.
The best part of it all, at least in my opinion, is that interracial couples are increasing at a higher rate. My soon to be son-in-law is white and my other daughter’s boyfriend in Chinese. The hate hasn’t scared people away from being people. It shows that even though racism still occurs, it isn’t turning people away from wanting to be with the ones they love. As for my relationship, the looks and the ignorance made us stronger as a couple. The harder people looked us, the tighter we held onto each other. It was us against the world and it has been that way for almost 23 years now. So, let’s hope The Duke and Duchess learn how to embrace to power of love and true unity because their love is a love that will be tested. However, pressure creates diamonds, so let the hate keep coming, their love will just keep shining.