The Pieces Of Childhood Our Children Will Never Get Back

We are coming to the end of the second month of school closings. As we approach the months ahead I think it is important for us as parents to talk to our children about their feelings and their anxiety over missing out on special events. Many of these milestones are once in a lifetime events which some will never get a chance to make up. Many of our children have had to say goodbye to relationships, trips , visits to their favorite teacher’s rooms and some have seen their prom preparations go up in flames.

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In my own children I can see an uneasiness that I haven’t seen before. My 18 year old talked about going to college all the time before COVID-19 took place. We found out that our Alma mater is offering classes to high school sophomores and up for 90 dollars per credit. One of the classes is Introduction to Sociology and there are a couple of other classes. We were excited because this was something our daughter had been talking about for almost a year. When we presented her with the idea, she had a mini freak out session. She didn’t want to go to college online and it didn’t stop there. She continued to explain if she could not go to school inside the classroom,then she wouldn’t attend college at all.

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My first thought was to insist that she would be enrolled in one of the classes, but then I started thinking about something. Right now her entire life has been turned inside out. While we are talking about college classes, she is still getting used to doing her high school classes online. I think we were wrong to press the conversation at this point because it brings a sense of long term changes that these children are not ready to deal with. It’s one thing to tell our children you cannot go back for the rest of the school year, but it is something else to tell them that their college dreams have been placed on hold for who knows how long. At any rate, I’m trying to be more thoughtful about her feelings and her fears.

Right now there are a number of adults freaking out about not being able to go out and get perms, nail jobs, or have happy hour with their pals. I would ask them to look to the plight of the young person today. It is a unknown road with unspoken fears. While many of us talk about the things we miss, we are at least in a position to get those memories back. Some of our children will never get to embrace the very events that helped to shape our school year experiences. The key word for this week in understanding. Understand that our children are dealing with the same situation we find ourselves in, but they do not have our knowledge of recovery. Have a happy week and be strong.

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My Coping Skills Are Working, Sort Of!

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This week started out kind of hard. If you could imagine a turtle trying to skirt back into its shell, then you would pretty much get how my mood has been. Freaky anxiety for no reason, but I’ve been pushing back mentally. I have been working with my plants and trying to get more supplies from Amazon! I purchased a small greenhouse for my veggies because our cat crawled into the pot and tried to claim it as his home and I can now see little buds. Just being able to work on something new is helping to ease the uneasiness to a small degree.

Here is the page if you want to get one. https://www.amazon.com/GOJOOASIS-Portable-Garden-Greenhouse-Outdoor/dp/B0774FN8Z8/ref=sr_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=greenhouse&qid=1587730889&sr=8-12

I was finally able to find a small freezer online from Walmart’s. My refrigerator is too small to hold our frozen food, I purchased the cheapest one Home Depot had last year, and now I am having to deal with the error of not getting what I needed the first time around. My husband wanted to buy a larger fridge, but I felt like a small freezer would do the trick, plus I didn’t want to waste money.

I only paid 40 bucks for the greenhouse which was also a money saver. I’m trying to make sure we can at least have veggies if all else fails. Last year I planted a group of veggies and the snails got a hold to my garden and that was pretty much, all she wrote. I have tried for least ten years to grow a vegetable garden and something always happens. From landscapers cutting them down, snails, cats or too much rain, I have no luck. So, this year I am determined which is why I ordered the greenhouse. I think they are supposed to keep water and insects out of the veggies.

A lot of crazy is transpiring today in different states across America. I have chosen not to dwell on it because at the end of the day, you cannot force people to do the right thing. Plus, thinking about this stuff constantly makes you stressed out. I would say we are all feeling at least some level of acute stress, if not more. There are just so many crazy things happening right now. It just overwhelms you if you dwell on it too long or forget that life still goes on. As for this second, I want to think about my Girl Scout cookies that have yet to arrive. I thought for sure I would be smacking on some shortbread cookies and having myself a glass of milk.

Anyway, I just wanted to pull myself out of my isolation box and say hello. Normally, I would just let this feeling keep me hostage, but for some reason I don’t want to be sucked in right now. Maybe it was getting up to water my plants, or seeing life grow when there is so much death around. I just feel a little more hopeful and I think I owe it to my plants!

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Texas Starts Reopening State Parks & Some Retail Stores With Certain Guidelines This Week.

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At the end of week we will mark a very telling move in our battle to stay COVID-19 free. For many of us, we have been monitoring our movements, and listening very closely to our government. This week in some ways, that will change. If ever there was a time when people turned their back on the government, I think you will see it happening this week with the COVID-19 situation.

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It’s simple for many of us, we are not engaging in risky behavior like mass gathering until we hear the CDC say it is ideal for the government to reopen. Our government has shown that they cannot be trusted to do the right thing in regards to following advice from the CDC. Take Texas for example, A three phase rule was put into place as a road map for reopening the states. Texas has not mastered the first rule which details a decline in COVID-19 cases for at least 14 days. Not only has Texas not mastered the first phase, but Texas hasn’t tested nearly enough people to claim any sort of success. If anything lawsuits have helped to bring us to where we are today.

It’s simple, some of us are not caving. In my city, we already have multiple businesses as essential. We have pawn shops, loan places, banks, restaurants (Drive Thru), gas stations, grocery stores, home improvement stores, Best Buy (saw cars in parking lot), Target, Walmart’s, Sams, Dollar General, Family Dollar, and Aldi open to the public. Our COVID-19 numbers keep going up which probably have something to do with the amount of things that never really closed down. The retail section of Governor Abbott’s move to reopen Texas does not bother me as much as the move to open state parks.

Social distancing was put in place to prevent large amounts of people from standing near each other in the stores, but nothing really mandated any of the organizations I named above to shut down. If anything, what the new retail policy will look like, will be more stores having to deliver, take togo orders, and utilize shipping opportunities. As of this date, our numbers continue to increase, so does the largest city in our county. We were the epicenter for a month or two. Now, the city outside of Fort Hood has taken on that title. Killeen which is the largest city in Bell County happens to be the feeder city to the Army base. There have been reports of soldiers coming down with the virus and once again the numbers in Killeen are rising everyday.

So, with new guidelines opening up more places, we will see some rises in COVID-19. There’s no telling how many people have COVID-19 in this state because we never really shut down. Churches stayed open for service, while schools shut down for the rest of the school year.

My fear is seeing something like we saw in Florida this past weekend. Our state parks are known for cookouts, swimming, fishing, and loads of recreational outlets. I do not see how park rangers will be able to monitor all parks and people congregating on hundreds of acres in various places. It’s like the drinking thing, you aren’t supposed to bring beer to the parks, yet people do it all the time. Are you telling me that the rangers will look at every park goer and monitor their face and enforce the mask, six feet apart, and limited 5 person per group order the entire duration of their stay? Parks are open for hours. How will the recreational lovers eat if they are participating in a cookout? That face mask will have to come off.

It just seems like a disaster waiting to happen. It will encourage more gathering and the chance to spread something that many people might not know they have. The weather here in Texas is very unpredictable, it could be 58 today and tomorrow the temperature could reach 80 degrees. So, it wouldn’t be uncommon for people to just pass something off as being a seasonal cough or sickness caused by the weather. I would feel so much better if we were not seeing rising numbers of COVID-19.

However, there is a glimmer of light for our county. While the number of people contracting COVID-19 continues to climb, the number of people cured also continues to climb in our area. We have more than enough hospital beds due to this area being surrounded by hospitals. I wish I could say the same for some of the other areas in Texas. I grew up in a small country town with only one store, and one Post Office. That is a recurring situation in many of the small towns in Texas. Some of these towns have hospitals that might be at least 15 to 20 minutes away in other cities.

So, once again, I hope we do not see a rise in cases. However, I do not see how we will miss a surge with more options for people to gather. While the cases are not overwhelming yet, it could change if people get careless. We need to know how many people in this state currently have COVID-19. It would help people monitor their movements a little more.

Explaining The Response Of The Government To Children In A COVID-19 Atmosphere

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My 18 year old daughter wanted to go on a date with a person she’s been talking to during shelter-in-place. Her understanding was that we were now in a better place with the virus since or governor eased up on the shelter-in-place policy. With parts of Texas opening back up and our president calling for a liberation of some states with shelter-in-place, the virus is starting to look like it is ending, to young people.

I agreed that both leaders have given the green light in some instances, but that it doesn’t mean we were out of the woods. I then informed her that we have the highest amount of people with the virus and that we also have lost the most people of any single country. As for our state, we haven’t even tested a good 10 percent of the population with people dying each day and new cases on the rise.

Just as the words made no since coming out of my mouth, a look of confusion flashed across her face. I continued and explained that COVID-19 was still pretty much a threat which is why school has been cancelled for the rest of the school year. She agreed that now wasn’t the time for the date and that it was probably best to listen to mom on this one.

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I used to think our government was somewhat smarter than the general population. I mean, in order to lead a state, nation, you would think they would be at least smart enough to know when to advance to go. Perhaps it doesn’t matter because at the end of the day, it is my job to take care of my family. The sad fact is that COVID-19 is increasing in numerous states. Our nation is now downplaying the threat just like they downplayed the likelihood of it causing any real risk to America.

My fellow friends, now is the time to stock up and be careful. Do not take extra risk and do not be fooled by the people who are willing to risk life for money. The Bible tells us that money is the root to all evil. I used to wonder in what capacity could money be evil, but then this situation took place. I believe we are being lied to from the top levels of government to stimulate the economy. This means the economy will get enough of a jump to boost up momentarily only to see a fall when newly infected individuals start to get sick.

Do not let your guard down. You do not have to go out and purchase all the food from your local market, but take notice of where your supplies are coming from. Know where local meat markets are located and stores that sell extra items. In case another shelter-in-place command comes down, you will be ready. Even if you are just buying one or two items a day, make sure you are buying something that you can use in case of an emergency.

Use your Nextdoor Apps to check on your neighbors. A lot of people are asking for help on the app and even setting up groups that go out and provide aid. Continue to help where you can, but do it in a way that keeps you and your family safe. Some of the hospitals that are dealing with COVID-19 are asking for donations, now would also be a great time to give a little to help those people. We might not be able to trust government, but we can still be there for each other.

If you are from other countries, post your information in my comment section and if you need help, we can try to do what we can to get you the help you need. All life matters and until we are all healthy and living the life we want to live, we should be trying to be there for each other. So hugs to all of you from all over the world! I know we are not the only ones hurting at this hour. To my readers in India, Spain, Italy, France, Philippians, UK, Ireland, US, Canada, and Poland I am sending my hugs. If I missed anyone, I am sorry.

Kisses from Texas!!