When Opening The States Causes Confusion With Teenagers

Yesterday after my children and I arrived home, my 14 year old ran into the computer room and asked me about hand sanitizer. I really didn’t think much about her reason behind asking. I blurted out the location and went back to what I was doing. About ten minutes later my 22 year old walked in the room and informed me that one of Alison’s friends had magically appeared on our doorstep. She went on to explain how Alison was about to hyperventilate because she feared I was going to ground her until she was 20.

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Apparently, her friend biked all the way from her house to our house which is about twenty minutes away. I walked to the door and looked out the window and noticed that my daughter had on her N95 mask and had given her friend one. At first I was a little upset because of the situation, but then I thought about it for a second. How can we expect our children to understand the dangers of being out in this pandemic when our leaders lack the understandings of dealing with it?

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This weekend I saw multiple children hanging out with their friends and acting as if things were back to normal. At this point, it is a waiting game. The governor doesn’t want to open the schools up because he is afraid of children coming down with the virus, but he is opening up other avenues for children to get sick. As a mother, I can do everything I can in my power to keep my girls safe. However, I cannot control other people’s behaviors. I do not even want to dare think of any negative outcome of yesterday’s visit. I just pray that our children remain safe.

I am thankful that my daughter knew enough about social distancing and wearing her mask, but that doesn’t make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. The government is sending mixed messages in regards to safety. On one hand, it is safe enough to go get your hair and nails done by someone standing directly over you, but it isn’t okay to sit next to your best friend in math class. If one form of protection is needed to preserve the youth, why aren’t all avenues covered in protecting the youth? A sick mother, father, hair dresser, or friend sitting next to a child all produces the same outcome.

And if you are wondering, I didn’t ground Ally. I told her I was proud of her for practicing social distancing and wearing her mask. She hugged me and said she was so happy I didn’t freak out. Silently, I was freaking out!!!

Thanks to all those that follow and read my blog. You make waking up at 3 AM worth it!!

The Duchess Of Sussex at The Table of Royals.

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I’ve been following Prince Harry and Prince William’s life ever since their mother died. I can tell you where I was on that heartbreaking night of August 31, 1997. My husband had just left for a 30 day field activity in another state and I was around six months pregnant. I started having this horrible ligament pain rip across the lower part of my belly, just as the special report broke across the TV. I don’t know if it was because of the terrible pain I was in or the sadness of the situation, but I sat up in the middle of the bed with my hand on my belly, crying my eyes out. I just remember being on my knees looking at the TV crying and wondering why the heck was my stomach feeling so horrible.

I’ve often wondered what kind of women I will lead within my own household. I pray my daughters are strong, smart, funny, and caring. In many ways their path will be laid out due to the lessons I’ve taught them over the years. This is a testament for the kind of Princes that Princess Diana and Prince Charles influenced by their lives. It could also be a result of things that happened prior to Queen Elizabeth II taking the throne from her father in 1952. She has really been a strong woman and a symbol of change. This Royal family seems to be cemented in the idea of love. While there have been some issues, that every other person in the world encounters, they have managed to hold tight to family.

Prince William trilled us when he finally decided to marry Duchess of Cambridge Catherine Middleton. In many ways it was a true Cinderella Story! She was a normal girl and then one day she wasn’t. The Duchess of Cambridge had a fairly easy transition to her newly appointed life. While there would always be little pings of jealousy from those who disliked her, she would still pretty much be shielded from the bulk of the drama. Her family didn’t try to steal attention or cause waves to benefit from her marriage.

In comes the Duchess of Sussex, she’s not only common, but she’s American. She’s not only American, she’s half African American from a broken family with stars in their eyes. The Duchess of Sussex is a dream for little girls of color. She didn’t have to make out with a frog to get the handsome guy, she only had to be herself. I must go on record and tell you how much I hate the Princess and the Frog. Moving on, this relationship was set up to be the perfect fairy tale until her family started acting like evil characters from another version of Cinderella.

I went from being super happy for the Duchess to being super sad and somewhat frustrated. If I’m feeling this way from my little desk in Texas, she must be feeling it a million times more. Now her father has taken his drama to a new low, he published a letter that she wrote to him. I will not dare put it on my blog because I respect the daughter parent relationship too much for that, but I will tell you that her words melt my heart. As parents we have to do better. We should always be in protect mode and I feel like her father has demonstrated that he is now in protect self mode. I’m sending hugs to the Duchess of Sussex this morning and letting her know, it’s okay.

The birth of a person seldom happens once. It happens every time we rise from the fire.

Is The Media Turning on Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex

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Is the media trying to turn the public against the Duchess of Sussex ? We’ve read many articles this month that have showcased her in a very unflattering light. She’s been picked on for cradling her stomach, being too large, not having on the right color nail polish, and in a few hours it will be something else. I feel sorry for her because she not only has a family that will stop at nothing to hurt her reputation, but now she has the media doing the same. Perhaps, the media has always been her problem , but they just didn’t have the right ammo. When people turned their eye from her sister and father, the media turned onto something else that could hinder her. They would cast her as a woman with an ego problem which centered around her being hard to work for.


“I have the heart of a man, not a woman, and I am not afraid of anything.”


Elizabeth I

Here is the states, we have strong women who marched in the #Metoo movement, Suffrage movement, and the Civil Rights movement. It’s in our blood to be strong because there was no other way. When the men went off to war, women were left back to tend the farms, houses, and protect their families. Call it the gift from the frontier, if you must, but it was the American way.

As it stands, the Duchess of Sussex was brought up by a strong female, I do not see her forgetting who she is, due to the crown. She can be a little more outspoken because she will not be Queen. However, at the end of the day, being outspoken shouldn’t make her a target, and I feel like the Duchess of Sussex has been targeted because she’s part of those women who are movers and shakers.

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In life we all have our parts to play. The Duchess of Sussex is being the supporter, and that should be okay. Just don’t forget your part because we are in a never ending play. Some of us just don’t know it yet.