When The Bullying Lines Get Blurred: Nikocado Avocado Vrs Stephanie Soo

The Issue With Online Drama

If you’ve been with my blog for a year more then you know about my struggle with the effects of bullying. My daughter who’s now 18 was mob attacked when she was 12. The attack happened on a playground with 11 to 12 girls around the ages 11 to 13.

This was a show that Ariana did after the incident.

Now both of my children love watching YouTube and one is a fanfiction YouTuber. So, naturally I take notice to what they’re watching and who they are watching. Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed a feud going on between Stephanie Soo and Nick Avocado.

What is it showing the youth?

Now both parties have pretty much been going back and forth because of an incident that happened at Miss Soo’s house. I am not here take a side, but I must point out something that I’m finding very disturbing among comments directed toward Nickacado.

Negative comments only make matters worse.

Within the past 15 hours Nickacado alluded to the fact that he was seeing or had an appointment with a therapist. Rather or not you believe this to be true, or you believe it be fiction, I think everyone needs to understand that words have an impact on all of us. Regardless of your loyalty, you should never wish harm on another person.

So many times we downplay mental illness, or we downplay signs of depression. Some of us might even try to justify by stating that the person bought the situation on themselves. However, that isn’t reason to keep inflicting pain on an individual. It’s okay to identify with people, but when you take on someone else’s pain and turn it into your own you are crossing a line.

The YouTube community has to understand that young vulnerable children are paying attention to these feuds. While many of these feuds might prove to be entertaining, they can also be very draining for someone who’s been through very similar ordeals. You never know when someone’s going to look at a post, read the post which was intended for someone else, and all of a sudden have a trigger reopened with those very same words coming back to them.

If you or your child is a victim of bullying at this point, I would stay clear of the Nick and Stephanie Soo feud because at this point it, I see it as counterproductive. Finger pointing never made any situation better and it isn’t effective in rebuilding relationships. We want both parties to come out of this situation healthy and strong.

Iran Issues A Unique Stance To America

It is now almost 11 p.m. on Tuesday night. By now, we have all unleased our anger over the bombings of Al- Asad and Erbil bases in Iraq. I will be the first to say I flipped out. Seeing the missiles going towards our base infused me with hurt, anger and a feeling of despair.

This isn’t the way you end a 20 year war.

Iran has stated that at this point they pretty much consider it even Steven in not those exact words. If America stands down they will not persue the matter any further. Meanwhile, questions are coming forward. People are wondering how America manages to leave the situation without damaging it’s reputation as a strong force to be reckoned with.

We are and always have been do or die.

I wouldn’t want to be in President Trump’s shoes for even a split second tonight. He has to make a decision on how his country will continue. If he caves, what will it mean for the rest of the international community? At this point we know how we got here, but the meat of this story is where do we go from here. Do we retaliate and go full blown into a world war? Or will we see something different from Trump this time around? Will he take the time out to talk to all members of Congress and hammer out a reasonable plan.

Up to this point, Trump has done Trump. Meaning he has done what he wants when he wants, but now he has to come to terms with a new reality. People will live and die by the choice he makes in the next few days. I cannot even begin to say what I would do in THIS situation, but the one thing I know I wouldn’t do is exclude seasoned minds on either sides of the table. He will need to trust like never before if he wants to save our great country !

Sometimes You Have To Learn Things For Yourself.

It’s interesting when you grow up in the country. You never seem to run out of biscuits or old wives tales. My mother bless her heart was unique. She was a hard working lady who loved us desperately. She raised us the only way she knew how which was by following her old wives tales guide, to staying healthy.

#1. You couldn’t eat watermelon and ice cream. She swore instant death if you ever consumed both at the same time. To be honest, I don’t think I’ve had both because somewhere deep down in the dark pits of my mind, I hear that voice warning me of a fatal outcome.

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#2. You couldn’t take a bath while you were on your period. It was also a constant killer of young teens, at least that’s what I was told. So, for the first few years of having my period, I must have been ripe as those watermelons. I remember asking the school nurse about it and having her look at me like I was crazy. Needless to say, I soon started taking baths on my period, and I never died from it.

#3. You couldn’t let a man give you oral sex or it would drive him crazy. I’m guessing it was in the same box as peeing in someone’s tea or something. She told me this after I married my husband! I’m not going there, but yeah moving on.

#4. You couldn’t eat fish and ice cream. Fish and ice cream was another combination of things that would kill you, so my mommy said!! That’s another combination, I think I’ve stayed away from because somewhere in the back of my mind, I hear that voice!

The next thing really pushed us apart to be honest. I knew it was just another one of those things that she picked up from the older people, but it still hurt me. She got sick shortly after I married my husband and had my daughter. She came down with autoimmune hepatitis. We really didn’t know much about the disease or where it came from, but we knew it wasn’t something we wanted associated with my mother. Bless her heart, she swore up and down that she got it because she had been around my newborn baby at that time. She said that my husband’s blood and my blood weren’t supposed to mix and that it made her ill because she was around my baby. Interracial marriages in her mind created her sickness.

I didn’t know how to take it to be honest, so I got angry. I never told this to anyone, but it hurt me so badly that she could even think such a thing. In the back of my mind I wondered if that played a role into her not coming to help me after the birth of my second baby. I came down with a bad case of postpartum depression. I was having vivid dreams of smothering my baby. I remember calling and begging for someone to come to me because I was scared I would do something to her, but nobody came. I told my husband about the dreams and he really became my rock. I don’t know what I would have done without him in those months. Anyway it’s 3:16 in the morning and I just felt like walking down memory lane. Here’s a list of things I had to learn for myself.