The Undoing of a Duchess

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(FILES) In this file photo taken on July 10, 2018 (L-R) Britain’s Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, Britain’s Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Britain’s Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Britain’s Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, stand on the balcony of Buckingham Palace to watch a military fly-past to mark the centenary of the Royal Air Force (RAF). – Britain’s Prince Harry said he and his brother Prince William were on “different paths” and admitted occasional tension in their relationship. The Duke of Sussex, 35, has been plagued by rumours of a growing rift between him and 37-year-old William, and he acknowledged that “inevitably stuff happens” given their high-profile roles in the royal family. In an interview with ITV television filmed during his recent tour of southern Africa with his wife Meghan, Harry said: “We are brothers. We will always be brothers. (Photo by Tolga AKMEN / AFP) (Photo by TOLGA AKMEN/AFP via Getty Images)

It turns out some traditions transcend centuries when it comes to royalty. Read any romance novel, and you will often see the romantic notion of royalty choosing love over duty fantasized, time and time again. Yet, in reality, some of these traditions have been around since the beginning of time, which makes them harder to break. Prince Harry and Meghan Markel’s relationship showcased the ugly side of acceptance from perhaps both worlds.

Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t always come with acceptance, and perhaps we thought those days were long gone. For those of us that thought those days were over, we soon saw the truth of acceptance. Duchess Meghan and Prince Harry’s relationship soon produced hatred pouring out from various sides of the globe. Which all seemed to start at home base, the UK.

I am sure most of us saw red flags shortly after the honeymoon ended. There were indicators of how the press would either accept or try to tear the couple apart. The was no time wasted comparing hair, clothing, and anything else that the press chose to go after between the two duchesses. The problem with the new couple was that their relationship wasn’t something that could be just theirs. Prince Harry’s life had often been played on the national stage as a real-life docuseries.

So, with all eyes on Prince Harry and his new wife, the nation sat by and watched the press try to undo the Duchess of Sussex. We saw the tears, embarrassment, and sadness in her eyes on multiple occasions. I often wondered what encounters produced such reactions prior to her public outings with the family. Could none of these situations be handled privately after the public appearance to help her save face? It was so blatant and heart-wrenching, considering the fantasy we all wanted to see play out.

From problems with Meghan’s family, allegations of bullying, renovating, cooking, her taste in clothing, all the way to how she held her son, nothing was off-limits. It soon became clear that she could do no right. Instead of the royal family circling around her to try to promote a safe environment, it appeared that they often tried to distance themselves from the drama. It was hard to tell what was staged after a while, and what was no longer staged.

The Duchess of Sussex couldn’t escape the black trap. It is the trap that we often feel in the middle of living life, which restricts us from being human. So, Meghan having emotions, thoughts, reactions that many would see as normal; would be abnormal due to her race. Finally, she gets the chance to do something she has never been able to do. She gets the chance to speak out.

We are living in a different time due to our easy access to news and public relationships. Words hurt and they also travel fast today. Some might see Meghan’s words as a betrayal, but many including myself see it as a right. We have the right to stand up for ourselves, and if you ask me, having her stay silent because she is a duchess sounds sexist. This is 2021!

This is no longer 1587 when royal women were restricted from being able to control their own bodies. We are living in a modernized era with modern ideas. Meghan’s voice is the voice of strength, guidance, and direction for those of us who feel silenced. If racism is ever to be cast aside, we have to stand up for those who have been mistreated. Even if those people are duchesses. So, in the end, just to clear things up! Meghan Markel will always be the duchess with or without the title in our hearts. No matter the outcome of the interview, we will stand beside her, because We Are Meghan!

Smear Campaign Launched, But We Are Not Buying It! America To The Rescue For Prince Henry & The Duchess.

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It now seems as though we’re witnessing a full-out character assassination of OUR Duchess Meghan Markle from across the pond. As Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan’s interview approaches, we are now hearing about more stories that are all shifting negative energy on the couple. With the new baby on the way, one has to wonder if all the negative press endangers the unborn child.

This is yet another sad chapter in the Fairy Tale wedding that so many of us wanted to see produce a better future for racial relations. Europe often looked like the big brother or sister that the United States needed when it came to historical issues on race. Yet, after Prince Harry married his Duchess, things changed. Europe went from looking like a haven of open-minded thinkers to a country with arrogant attitudes regarding who was good enough to be a Royal.

It is sad, but given the day we live, it isn’t surprising. While we are a world skating on the brink of change, we are also fearful of change. There is one thing that will never change, and that is the fact that Meghan will always be Harry’s wife. No matter what changes in the future, even if their titles get caught up in this scandal, they will still have each other. Not only will they have each other, but they will have us.

We are the ones who watched Prince Harry grow and blossom into the man we see today. Meghan is the topping and the extra moisture needed to bake the best cake ever! {Sorry, tomorrow is my 24th anniversary! Cake on the brain!} She is outspoken, smart, and an inspiration to women across the world. I am sure things might feel a little uncomfortable right now but rest assured, The Duchess of Sussex will do great things for the United States as well as the UK if she is allowed. Instead of silencing her, maybe they should have thought of a better way to use her light and bring unity across the globe.

It’s too bad the crown didn’t use Meghan’s popularity to push better programs and unity. I am glad to see her back in the United States because it was heart-wrenching to watch her struggle so publicly with treatment from those who should have been tasked with making her feel right at home. Thank God, Meghan’s home.

The Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle Showcases How Interracial Marriages Can Be A Challenge In 2019.

Interracial marriages still face problems that many people do not truly understand. I think many people are under the impression that interracial marriages are fully accepted now because we see more couples in interracial relationships. However, what many people do not see is the struggles that still exist surrounding the couples on a day to day basis. Just take the gallery that I use for my blog pictures for example. There were plenty of pictures showcasing loving relationships, but hardly any of them were of interracial relationships.

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When Meghan Markle married Prince Harry over a year ago many like myself were over the moon! It was a win for love and one more nail in the coffin for racism, so we thought. You see more couples that choose to marry outside of their race today, but what you do not see is the racism that comes with that choice. I recall the first time I witnessed issues stemming from my marriage some years ago. We went to a retreat near Big Bear which showcased how couples were supposed to communicate with each other. After our lessons were over, the couples would all head towards the cafeteria and mingle. My husband and I weren’t approached by anyone and to make matters worse later that night we had to share the room with a couple that seemed to be fixated on what being black meant. Later on we would get looks from others. We would also have incidents were certain people would try to pick at the spouse that wasn’t the “correct” race.

What we are seeing today with The Duchess of Sussex and The Duke of Sussex is the real face of acceptance. Nobody wants to admit to being a bigot, but with the curtains now pulled back, we are seeing that bigotry is alive and well. Don’t get me wrong, we have made advances in gaining the right to marry who we want to marry. However, attitudes are still somewhat jaded by many when it comes to interracial marriages. Do you recall the commercial that sparked a debate on interracial marriage just 6 years ago.

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Pick any high profile couple that happens to be married to someone outside of their race and ugly comments are not far away. After Matthew McConaughey married Camila Alves there were comments about how he could have done so much better. Never mind she is drop dead gorgeous, but some still felt that she was not fit to be his wife because she wasn’t white. Comments were made after Serena Williams married Alexis Ohanian and so on. Anytime you see a interracial marriage, get ready to see ugly comments. People have been called race traders, nigger lovers, mud sharks, Oreo cookies, and other hurtful names.

The best part of it all, at least in my opinion, is that interracial couples are increasing at a higher rate. My soon to be son-in-law is white and my other daughter’s boyfriend in Chinese. The hate hasn’t scared people away from being people. It shows that even though racism still occurs, it isn’t turning people away from wanting to be with the ones they love. As for my relationship, the looks and the ignorance made us stronger as a couple. The harder people looked us, the tighter we held onto each other. It was us against the world and it has been that way for almost 23 years now. So, let’s hope The Duke and Duchess learn how to embrace to power of love and true unity because their love is a love that will be tested. However, pressure creates diamonds, so let the hate keep coming, their love will just keep shining.

Wishing The Duchess of Sussex A Peaceful Transition Into Motherhood !

Now that Kensington Palace has released a message in regards to the treatment of both The Duchess or Sussex and The Duchess of Cambridge, we can now all exhale. I’m just so happy that that both women are now going to be able to get a break from some of the harsh treatment that has been thrown their way over the past months.

My daughter was a victim of bullying and I can tell you as a mother, it hurts to see your children in pain. The Duchess of Sussex was a victim of cyber-bullying. It’s perhaps one of the hardest ones to deal with because it is everywhere you turn. No matter how you feel about a person, never forget that people have feelings. Riches do not protect against harsh words and treatment. So, please remember that in your future journey. Life doesn’t have to be bitter.

Lastly, support these women like they were your sisters, daughters and best friends. A woman once told me to practice my nagging in front of a mirror before I tried them out on my husband. She insisted that if I didn’t like the way the words looked coming back at me then chances were he wouldn’t either. Maybe that’s a reason I will be married 22 yrs tomorrow. Kindness moves the world.

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