Update: My Husband’s VA Appointment

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I’m officially back off of my hiatus. So, a quick recap of things that have been going on since I’ve been MIA. My husband had his c&p appointment for sleep apnea yesterday. This claim was literally filed around January 31st.

We got the appointment that a C&P have been scheduled two days ago. It’s possible it could have been 3 days ago, but the point was we had two days to pretty much plan everything around going to a c&p exam, which was about 50 miles away.

So, we go all the way out to Round Rock and the appointment doesn’t even last 10 minutes,Y’all. I kid you not, we drove all the way to Round Rock for some nurse practitioner that asked my husband maybe six questions.

These are the situations that our vets are in when it comes to exams scheduled by the VA. Can you tell me about any exam you’ve ever been to that doesn’t even last 10 minutes?

Luckily, I wrote a whole page prior to us arriving at the clinic so at least he was able to give that to the nurse practitioner. She wouldn’t let me in, so my notes were able to do the talking.

My husband is currently at 90% disability for the VA and he was diagnosed with sleep apnea last month. My husband isn’t overweight and doesn’t suffer from allergies or sinus anything like that. He had a back surgery in 2009 that basically ended up messing up a lot of his nerves and stuff. Not only did it mess up his nerves, but it also managed to mess up the top part of his neck.

After doing a lot of research, I found out that neck problems are one of the reasons veterans develop sleep apnea. Another research found sleep apnea is a direct correlation with depression. My husband suffers from major depression. We’ve been pretty much fighting for months over his retroactive pay. It’s frustrating because we’re still waiting on a settlement that was granted all the way back in August and the only thing we keep hearing is well it’s a lot of entitlement coming from years ago.

Okay, but it’s been seven months, with VA messing up on appointments and not knowing what’s going on with his case. At this rate I don’t really trust anyting Veteran Affairs tells people, I feel like they employ a lot of dishonest examiners to do appointments.

The clinic we went to yesterday was a LHI clinic. If you’ve never been to one of these LHI appointments, let me fill you in on what happens. The examiners do not listen to the soldiers, they do not seem to be qualified in many of the illnesses that the soldiers suffer from.

We have yet to see an actual service-connected issue gain service connection from a LHI clinic. All service connection disorders are coming from the VA examiners. LHI are contracted out by the VA to conduct exams. It looks like they are contracted to interfere with veterans getting fair decisions. Often times their decisions are overturned in court. I know no other organization that receives as many lawsuits as the VA and still manages to stay afloat.

Oh well.

Knowing How To Spot Munchausen Syndrome

Many of you have probably seen the show on Hulu called The Act. As an ex child abuse investigator, I have been pretty vocal on knowing what and when to report child abuse. This morning we are going to talk about learning how to report abuse and when normal isn’t normal.

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One of my most emotional cases dealt with a young mother who nearly mastered the art of deception. The case was centered around a toddler who was subject to multiple surgeries and needless test. By the time I entered the picture the mother had started keeping a visual log of photos detailing her abuse. I still remember seeing the enormous stack of photos and having a chill of sudden fear run down my spine.

I’ll never know why she kept so many photos of her son detailing every sick moment. My gut tells me that she was going to use those photos as a reason to assign death at a later date. We are talking about hundreds of photos with nothing but sickness and a detailed walk down torture lane. She knew the right words, she knew the right people, but she got a little too overconfident in the end.

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In the end I got my butt chewed off by our lawyers and the judge because I did something most investigators would never do, I went against the hospital by forcing their hand in learning the truth. When I got the case this child was slowly dying, he wasn’t gaining weight, and he was on a pure liquid diet. I had to threaten hospital social workers in order to keep him safe, but by the end of three weeks, I had all medical proof I needed.

His vitals rebounded, he gained well into the 50th percentile and he was now starting to eat by mouth. The child I saw weeks ago couldn’t sit up and he couldn’t wave at me. Now he was now able to walk around the hospital room and give me his toy trucks. We were awarded custody of him, but we couldn’t get the DA to sign off on charges of child abuse due to them not knowing much about the Munchausen Syndrome.

Two things could have saved this kid a lot of pain and heartache. The first thing is having a medical professional call in a case prior to him being nearly 4 or 5. By the time I stepped in, he had already been to quite a few hospitals. All of the doctors said they suspected something was off. They were taking notes, but the mother moved from place to place.

Correspondence is key when you are dealing with someone who suffers from this syndrome. If these hospitals would have linked up a year ago, this child would have been removed a lot sooner. Another provider stated that she felt like they were being forced into performing surgeries by the parent. The parent knew just enough medical terminology to fake symptoms and syndromes.

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This child was surrounded by medical personnel but it took years for someone to call in the abuse. Remember you work for the child. If you are an investigator , be diligent. I know the department presses you to close cases due to numbers, but life surpasses any number system. If you feel like something feels wrong, investigate it. Do not close that case until YOU are sure that child is safe.

Lastly, never assume that certain people can’t be abusers. If you saw little Todd walking and eating three months ago and now every time you see him he has a sippy cup in hand, ask why. If you babysit this child and he eats for you, but the mother swears that he can’t eat, ask why. If you still feel like something is off, call CPS. You just might be saving a life.