The Unending Quest For Freedom

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There have been recent arguments over freedom and what amounts to being restrictive when we think about our rights. When people talk about freedom, the first thing that comes to mind is uncontrollable restriction. Some view this in different ways. Some people feel that restrictions come in boxes with the government wrapped around them. Others might view it as a box wrapped in relationships.

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We have been dealing with the fear of giving up freedom for many years now. It has created a group of people that no longer want to get married or be in monogamous relationships. Ask any single person why they want to be single, and the chances will be because they like having their freedom.

As Americans, we have come to worship the word more so today than any other day in history. We have used the word so often today that I fear some of us no longer understand the meaning. It’s sad when you see people who have so much, continue to want more more more. The lack of empathy has helped to spread COVID-19 to millions of people.

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I look at the young adults of today, and it scares me. Take social media, for example, people have stopped going out to meet people the old fashion way. They use the apps to search for dates like they would use a catalog to search for clothing. It gives them freedom to date as many people as they want, but it also helps to spread STD’s.

Whenever we focus solely on our liberties, something negative happens in return. We were too focused on not wearing a mask with COVID 419,000 people died. We were too focused on having a good time, people stopped getting married, we were too focused on our political views, our Capitol was stormed.

We were not held captive inside our homes; we still had access to the outside world. We did not have an iron mask nailed to our faces or marriages forced on us, yet we heard cries for freedom. Unless you are a victim of the human slave trade, captive in an abusive relationship, or live in some countries that truly do take away your freedoms, is it okay to cry about freedom?

Perhaps, freedom looks different to me because my ancestors were in chains and sold at markets. They were forced to work sun up to sun down with all kinds of physical, sexual, and mental abuse. Perhaps, it looks different because of my time spent with women to help rebuild their lives after they were held captive for months by abusive boyfriends. What is freedom?

Birthday From Hell Because $100 Bucks Was Too Little

It is a little after three in the morning, and I am still reeling from my daughter’s birthday. In my family, we have a tradition. Every birthday person gets a certain amount of money and their special day. However, after 12 AM hits, all bets are off.

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Well, since COVID-19 happened, we had to cut back on somethings. This year we put in place a $100 maximum per birthday. Last month was the 15-year old’s birthday, and she lost 50 of her 100 at the mall. A typical birthday is celebrated all day until midnight. Every single person in the family watches the shows that are picked by the birthday girl or boy. It can be hell day for the ones of us who hate anime, or horror shows because you can bet one of those two will be on the menu. However, most of the time the birthday person picks a meal that the entire family likes which makes up for the horrible shows!!!!

The entire week including on the 27th, my daughter was adamant about not wanting 100 bucks because she said it wouldn’t buy anything. She wanted $200 and insisted that we fork over $200 or nothing at all. I informed her; that she was headed for a rude awakening, but she insisted that she would not be part of any celebrations if we gave her 100.

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So, yesterday came, and I didn’t give her anything. She woke up, and it pretty much went downhill from there. She didn’t want to watch anything; she wanted to argue the entire time. I went into my room and shut the door. Hours later, she was ready to be civil, she was happy to finish her day off with cake and dinner.

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I told my husband that I wasn’t sure about not giving her the money but that she needed to understand the meaning of gratefulness. I explained to her that there is a country full of people who cannot even get a pack of chicken for dinner, but she had the nerve to stick her nose up at $100 bucks because it wasn’t enough. Part of me feels bad about not giving it to her, but the other part feels like she got the message. Afterward, when she asked if maybe we would think about giving it to her later, it looked like she understood that it was a blessing instead of a big fat nothing. It was a hard day, but I think it a lesson in humility was needed. People do what they can , and it is a blessing no matter the gift.

Is There A COVID Indifference?

The COVID-19 tally for my family is going up. With the increase of cases, one thing remains clear; there is a difference in how people receive care. Right now, the tally for COVID cases in my family stands at 9. My sister had COVID with her husband and our cousins. My husband’s sister and her husband had COVID-19, which also bled down to their children.

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Earlier this week, my daughter informed me that her boyfriend and his mother were diagnosed with COVID. I asked her boyfriend about their medication and found out the doctors prescribed Z-packs. I asked her boyfriend if he and his mother were prescribed any other medications he stated no.

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Part of me wanted to believe that this was perhaps normal. However, I knew from talking to our family members when they dealt with COVID that check-ups were frequent. I told him about the vitamins that the doctors used to help our loved ones get better.

I do not want to believe that money plays such a role in how people get treatment for this virus, but it looks like money is a factor. You have two families of the upper-middle class who receive great care. Then you have a Mexican family barely above the poverty line that is told to go home and rest.

I would like to believe that perhaps there is something I might be missing, but why were these people simply told to go home and rest? Why are so many people told to go home and rest and later come back with raging cases of COVID? Just curious.

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The Government Must Protect Families From BECOMING Homeless.

For some of us, this Christmas will bring a flood of emotions. Many Americans will be shopping for gifts this year. Yet, there is another group, that will be biting their fingernails. They will be hoping for a present from Santa Claus, called a lifeline.

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Many months ago, I warned about the ramifications of not doing enough to take care of Covid-19. Many people were on pins and needles to get the country back open and moving. The virus wasn’t contained properly, so the movement created a unprotected path for the virus to grow.

Now here we are at the end of 2020 with an uncontrolled spread. Here in my county, we’re at level one which means the virus is uncontrollable. It’s the worst possible outcome for our city. Late last night before I went to sleep I read an article about Ken Paxton. Apparently he wants to withhold covid funds from Houston or better yet Harris county. I don’t think people understand the amount of evil that goes into the idea that welcomes the destruction of a group, based on their political standing.

This virus has brought out the worst in people. It is showcased how little people cared about protecting life, responsibilities, and their ability to think for themselves. The sad part, is that covid-19 might have been controllable had it not been so politicized. It’s almost as if people took advantage of the pandemic to advance their own standing in communities.

Now we head into the new year, many families will become homeless very soon. If Congress doesn’t do something, these families and their landlords will soon face ruin. What causes homelessness? A sickness, a death, or an inability to provide for oneself causes homelessness. In this situation the sickness was covid-19, the virus was so devastating that it took a toll on millions of Americans.

Most of the time, when we talk about covid-19, we only hear about the deaths that occur. While the deaths are perhaps the most horrid outcome, a lot of us do not think about the economic devastation. Yet, perhaps the saddest part of all of this, is that people could slow the spread.

Take Ubereats for example, one of my relatives uses Ubereats as a side hustle. He stated that Ubereats has a really good system that makes sure drivers are safe, but you still find occasional customers who want food delivered to them, face to face. Even though the company is trying to protect its drivers, you still have people who don’t understand the importance of proper social distancing. For the most part, Ubereats expects the deliveries to remain contactless, which means the delivery driver is supposed to deliver the food to the door and alert the customer.

Due to the fact, that some customers still want to act like Covid-19 isn’t a thing, many drivers have decided to stop delivering. This means restaurants will cut back on orders, which means less money, and having fewer staff members in their establishments. The lack of social distancing and mask wearing creates problems for the whole community.

Because of the government’s inability to press on the importance of social distancing and mask wearing, we are now looking at a spiraling downfall. The fact is, these companies have to lay off and close due to poor habits. Their workers have no other options of earning income. In the end, it leads to homelessness caused by the government’s response to Covid-19.

It’s bad enough when you mess up and put your family at risk, but it’s like 10 times worse when it’s not your fault. Some of these states have thrown their citizens to the gutter. Some of these same leaders will sit here and brag about not wearing masks, and then pop in line to receive the vaccine before anyone else.

I know this is a long rant, and I’m sorry for that. But as I gaze out my window thinking about the difficulties of removing myself from my blankets due to my depression, I can’t help but wonder how my fellow Americans are feeling right now. I guess I am blessed because my junk is all in my head. I love you all we will get through this together.

If you are feeling overwhelmed and think there’s no exit, please seek out help. The National Suicide Hotline Number is 1 800-273-8255. If you find yourself in a dangerous situation due to violence please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

Numbers to know right about now. https://www.hudexchange.info/homelessness-assistance/  (202) 708-1112 , https://www.catholiccharitiesusa.org/  703-549-1390, https://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/ 1-800-SAL-ARMY

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