If you’ve been with my blog for a year more then you know about my struggle with the effects of bullying. My daughter who’s now 18 was mob attacked when she was 12. The attack happened on a playground with 11 to 12 girls around the ages 11 to 13.
Now both of my children love watching YouTube and one is a fanfiction YouTuber. So, naturally I take notice to what they’re watching and who they are watching. Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed a feud going on between Stephanie Soo and Nick Avocado.
Now both parties have pretty much been going back and forth because of an incident that happened at Miss Soo’s house. I am not here take a side, but I must point out something that I’m finding very disturbing among comments directed toward Nickacado.
Within the past 15 hours Nickacado alluded to the fact that he was seeing or had an appointment with a therapist. Rather or not you believe this to be true, or you believe it be fiction, I think everyone needs to understand that words have an impact on all of us. Regardless of your loyalty, you should never wish harm on another person.
So many times we downplay mental illness, or we downplay signs of depression. Some of us might even try to justify by stating that the person bought the situation on themselves. However, that isn’t reason to keep inflicting pain on an individual. It’s okay to identify with people, but when you take on someone else’s pain and turn it into your own you are crossing a line.
The YouTube community has to understand that young vulnerable children are paying attention to these feuds. While many of these feuds might prove to be entertaining, they can also be very draining for someone who’s been through very similar ordeals. You never know when someone’s going to look at a post, read the post which was intended for someone else, and all of a sudden have a trigger reopened with those very same words coming back to them.
If you or your child is a victim of bullying at this point, I would stay clear of the Nick and Stephanie Soo feud because at this point it, I see it as counterproductive. Finger pointing never made any situation better and it isn’t effective in rebuilding relationships. We want both parties to come out of this situation healthy and strong.
Leave it up to kids to come up with the most simple forms of expressing love! I’ve just finished up my lunch for today, and all of the ingredients were purchased from the local meat market down the road because my babies want to show their support. It isn’t an American market, it is a Mexican market and the only one that sells taco meat worth anything in this area.
To be honest, I couldn’t imagine the store not being here. Two weeks ago we found ourselves roaming the aisles of the Korean Market in a nearby city. Once again, I couldn’t imagine the market not being there.
In the near future I plan to go back to the Indian Market to try out new spices and see if I can find anything that beginners like myself might be able to create. In my opinion, food gives us a glimpse of who people are. It is a comforting item but so much more. In any given neighborhood around the globe there’s something beautiful to be seen. There are spices to try, new smells to smell, and bottled up warmth waiting for those who need it the most.
Perhaps that is the reason I always tell people to hold on to what they have. My mother had so many recipes and was the best cook ever. However, I didn’t get any of that knowledge from her. Our special moments and my cherished memories all go back to her cooking chocolate pies, cookies, and casseroles.
I’ve found that my daughter comes to life in the kitchen much like my mother. Her shy demeanor goes out of the window the minute she starts talking about cooking. With that said, on a different note! We decided that we will help out stores that might not get much traffic due to the fears from our government. We will be frequenting the Korean market, Mexican markets, and Indian markets because they are part of our community. I’m sure our government will figure this mess out.
As always if you want to see Ariana’s newest YouTube video check it out below.
Earlier this week I wrote an article about Uber and how it pretty much saved my life!! So, it saddens me to have to write this article about Ubereats. Now, my daughter is doing a YouTube series on food and restaurants. She ordered both Ubereats and Waitr to see which service offers the best service.
Well, I have to tell you, I was surprised that Ubereats did not come out as the winner. Ubereats sent some random email about our acct and refunding us money because of some odd reason. So, we were left with questions as to the reason our order was cancelled. I looked in our account a little while ago and the money has yet to be refunded. I am not making a big stink out of 30 bucks, but I wonder what happened to the order.
Crazy enough, all of this went down while Ariana was making her YouTube video. So, now people will see Ubereats in a less favorable light. I will say this in defense of Ubereats! Most of the time we have always received our food, I think we have only had one other situation that resulted in us not receiving our food. Both orders were over 30 dollars that resulted in cancellations.
Anyway, a picture is worth a thousand words, or at least a YouTube video. Sorry, Ubereats!
You never know what the customer is doing so always be on your best behavior.
Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away with our definition of attainable. Perhaps, we were never told yes you can while growing up, so we do not know how to be supportive when our children need us to give those affirmations. To be honest, some of us might not even understand what it means to live in a world that showcases things as being attainable. So, let this be the theme of today.
Take it from Thomas Edison and perhaps my favorite quote of all times. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Do not let a problem keep you down because there’s always another day. Earlier this week we talked about my car breaking down and how scary that whole situation was. There were times that I wanted to cry, yell, or even call the dealership and curse them out. However, my goal was to get home, so keeping a positive outlook was vital.
I have tried to pass that mindset to my children. It isn’t about how horrible things are, but it’s about how we can make them better. If we see our goals as attainable we will continue to walk towards them. I go back to the day I was in the living room with my mother. I was around the age of 9 and was mesmerized by anything with mummies in it. I wanted to be an archeologist and that is exactly what I told her! She looked at me and informed me that black people weren’t those things and to stop talking nonsense.
I wish I knew then the things I know now. Color does not define what we can and can’t do. It is the mindset giving birth to the idea of attainability. I can achieve this goal if I work for it, I will achieve this goal because I will work hard to achieve it. At lease that is the message I give my children. Today, I am happy to announce that my daughter has transitioned into actively working towards her goal in becoming a foodie.
What the makings of a dream come true below.
She’s even managed to get 2 subscribers! They are her friends, but they still count! Oh wait let me add one more to the mix! I forgot to subscribe.