Warning! I Had To Take My Kids Off Remote Learning

If you follow my blog, you know I am a big advocate for safety. I champion safe environments for children, but remote learning was starting to take a negative affect on my youngest child. It was a tough situation because one daughter was doing really good with remote learning. She was doing all the assignments! We printed out directions, passed it to the kids, and made sure they understood what they needed to do. We even helped them find different websites to help enhance their learning. Everything was going well until after about 4 weeks of school. The one with a history of asthma slowly started to shut all the way down because she missed being at school.

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She was the main reason I didn’t want the girls going to school. I was terrified of her getting COVID especially after my sister and cousins caught it from their schools. However, she started sleeping all the time and refusing to do her work. On one occasion she ran out of the house to her friend’s house because she didn’t want to work on her missing assignments. It was like the harder I pushed, the more she refused. Even having her sit down next to me wasn’t producing the intended outcome. It looks so easy in the photo right? Try doing the same pose with a 15 yr old who has made up her mind that she isn’t going to do her work anymore.

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It was frustrating! We had one child who was doing a great job with remote learning and listening most of the time. We purchased books on the side just so we could help our children, but it really was the social interaction that was doing the 15 yr in. My 15 yr old had went from a happy kid to a depressed vessel walking around the house. After we put her back in school her mood boomeranged. She was once again the fun loving child, we all knew , and her grades picked up.

I think if you are thinking about remote learning, you have to take your child’s personality into consideration which is something I didn’t do. While the daughter who dislikes social interaction did great at remote learning, the one who thrived in social environments seemed to show signs of distress. The one who disliked crowds was energetic and excited about getting her work done, while the 15 yr was the direct opposite. Now that they are both back in school they meet up for lunch and eat outside due to the crowds in the lunchroom.

For you guys out there that might be going through the same situation, make sure you monitor your children’s moods and stay on top of their grades. If it is taking days on top of days to get them to complete assignments or if they refuse to turn them in, you might have to come up with a new plan. For us, it was a hard choice, but watching her melt away wasn’t an option either.

Coronavirus Is Mapping A New Environment.

As many of us continue to deal with the daily effects of staying indoors, some of us are starting to come to sobering conclusions. Families in my small town are now starting to pack up and move. With this area being the epicenter of COVID-19 we are now hearing of friends preparing to make moves that will change the map of our children’s lives.

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Today my daughter informed me that one of her friends would now be relocating to another state due to the virus. A few minutes later he called and was crying about the upcoming move which will take place in hours. When you think about this virus you do not think about the permanent damage it is going to do to our neighborhoods. We think about the shelter-in-place order and how everyone will hopefully stay put and make it out alive in the next few months.

Pause for a second, what does it even mean to deal with something in 2020 that could hinder our ability to make it out alive? That’s the new world we live in. We live in a world that is looking like something out of a dystopian novel. I do not think many of us understand the full scope of the devastation that COVID-19 will send through our neighborhoods. Not only is it hurting people physically, but it is also wrecking relationships for those who rely very dearly on their peers.

While we understand that our children cannot go over and hang out with their friends at this moment, most of us, are at least telling them that they will be able to see them once this ordeal ends. However, what happens when it ends and their friends have already relocated due to the financial burdens?

Within a 10 to 35 mile radius, we have seen COVID-19 kill at least one school principal and enter into our drive through establishments. Two restaurants had to temporarily close due to employees having the virus and now it has started to show up in my husband’s working arena. While, I am happy that he now works from home three days a week, I still fear for his safety the other two days with COVID-19 having such a firm grasp within his industry. He is essential so there’s nothing we can do, but follow CDC guidelines to the best of our ability. If you are like me and you have a family made of up essential workers, the fear is real.

So, keep that in mind as we go through the next few weeks. We are in this together and no matter the situation, we will get through this one way or the other. I cannot promise that our neighborhoods will not come out of this without scar tissue. In many cases, the aftermath will be visible, but we are still one. Keep compassion flowing because our spirit is stronger than this virus.

Side Note Of the Day. We were reading Nextdoor and noticed a post from a family that works in the medical community. Please be mindful and remember that shelter-in-place means children cannot be hanging out with their pals.

Hey Bellmont neighbors! I’m kindly suggesting that we quit allowing or sending kids to other people’s houses right now. I know they are cooped up, but my husband and I are essential healthcare employees and so are many of you. It’s dangerous for them to be coming house to house.

When The Bullying Lines Get Blurred: Nikocado Avocado Vrs Stephanie Soo

The Issue With Online Drama

If you’ve been with my blog for a year more then you know about my struggle with the effects of bullying. My daughter who’s now 18 was mob attacked when she was 12. The attack happened on a playground with 11 to 12 girls around the ages 11 to 13.

This was a show that Ariana did after the incident.

Now both of my children love watching YouTube and one is a fanfiction YouTuber. So, naturally I take notice to what they’re watching and who they are watching. Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed a feud going on between Stephanie Soo and Nick Avocado.

What is it showing the youth?

Now both parties have pretty much been going back and forth because of an incident that happened at Miss Soo’s house. I am not here take a side, but I must point out something that I’m finding very disturbing among comments directed toward Nickacado.

Negative comments only make matters worse.

Within the past 15 hours Nickacado alluded to the fact that he was seeing or had an appointment with a therapist. Rather or not you believe this to be true, or you believe it be fiction, I think everyone needs to understand that words have an impact on all of us. Regardless of your loyalty, you should never wish harm on another person.

So many times we downplay mental illness, or we downplay signs of depression. Some of us might even try to justify by stating that the person bought the situation on themselves. However, that isn’t reason to keep inflicting pain on an individual. It’s okay to identify with people, but when you take on someone else’s pain and turn it into your own you are crossing a line.

The YouTube community has to understand that young vulnerable children are paying attention to these feuds. While many of these feuds might prove to be entertaining, they can also be very draining for someone who’s been through very similar ordeals. You never know when someone’s going to look at a post, read the post which was intended for someone else, and all of a sudden have a trigger reopened with those very same words coming back to them.

If you or your child is a victim of bullying at this point, I would stay clear of the Nick and Stephanie Soo feud because at this point it, I see it as counterproductive. Finger pointing never made any situation better and it isn’t effective in rebuilding relationships. We want both parties to come out of this situation healthy and strong.