Bullying

Articles about bullying and how we deal with it.

Stumbling On Hidden Truths : Meghan And Harry

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Welcome to my blog once again and today we’re going to talk about my girl: Meghan markle AKA Duchess of our Hearts!

Love!!

As many of you have probably found out by now Meghan Markle and her husband Prince Harry have decided take a few inches back from the royal lifestyle. If you have followed the monarchy like I have, then you know Queen Elizabeth II has a lineage of relationships built on love.

From Queen Victoria I to Queen Elizabeth II love has been a common theme in this family. If you are wondering how or why Queen Elizabeth II gave approval for Meghan markle and Prince Harry to live outside of the throne look no further then her father’s brother who was once King of England.

Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle

It should come as no surprise that Prince Harry is committed to that same kind of unyielding love when it comes to his wife and child. I think people forget the Prince Harry it’s not directly in line for the throne. Since Prince William has two small sons it really takes a lot of the pressure off of Harry and lets him focus more on his lifestyle.

There are people who are very upset about the couple’s wish to move outside of tradition. I support the Queens opinion on the situation because everybody have a light. Perhaps Prince Harry and Meghan’s light will be better shown outside of the UK.

In my opinion, both Meghan and Harry are doing what’s necessary to raise her son in a therapeutic environment. I often wonder about our president’s children and how they fair. We watch the children of our presidents mature whole terms, sometimes up to 8 years.

Do we even know of their descendants today?

In case of royal families their children never seem to get out of the spotlight, imagine how damning that can be if the spotlight seems to be frequently jaded? For a lot of people, I think the UK seems like it was a Utopia for minorities, if you are not from the UK. According to the history books slavery ended in the European countries before it ever ended in the United States. We even had black people who went to live abroad to get away from hate crimes here at home.

I think the treatment that Meghan Markle has received has been somewhat shocking for Americans due to our perceptions on the UK. The media from the onslaught of Megan’s pregnancy down to probably the last 24 hours has been nothing but critical of Meghan Markle and Harry. I know people don’t want to use the term bullying because bullying is such a ugly word, but the media has been vicious. I’ve not seen the type of treatment The Duchess and the Duke of Sussex encountered passed on any other member of the Royal family.

Ironically, this was the family who could survive such a feat due to their strong history of listening to their hearts. In a way, we are just watching history repeat itself! Love gives us the courage to move when others would have been immobilized in sorrow.

When The Bullying Lines Get Blurred: Nikocado Avocado Vrs Stephanie Soo

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The Issue With Online Drama

If you’ve been with my blog for a year more then you know about my struggle with the effects of bullying. My daughter who’s now 18 was mob attacked when she was 12. The attack happened on a playground with 11 to 12 girls around the ages 11 to 13.

This was a show that Ariana did after the incident.

Now both of my children love watching YouTube and one is a fanfiction YouTuber. So, naturally I take notice to what they’re watching and who they are watching. Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed a feud going on between Stephanie Soo and Nick Avocado.

What is it showing the youth?

Now both parties have pretty much been going back and forth because of an incident that happened at Miss Soo’s house. I am not here take a side, but I must point out something that I’m finding very disturbing among comments directed toward Nickacado.

Negative comments only make matters worse.

Within the past 15 hours Nickacado alluded to the fact that he was seeing or had an appointment with a therapist. Rather or not you believe this to be true, or you believe it be fiction, I think everyone needs to understand that words have an impact on all of us. Regardless of your loyalty, you should never wish harm on another person.

So many times we downplay mental illness, or we downplay signs of depression. Some of us might even try to justify by stating that the person bought the situation on themselves. However, that isn’t reason to keep inflicting pain on an individual. It’s okay to identify with people, but when you take on someone else’s pain and turn it into your own you are crossing a line.

The YouTube community has to understand that young vulnerable children are paying attention to these feuds. While many of these feuds might prove to be entertaining, they can also be very draining for someone who’s been through very similar ordeals. You never know when someone’s going to look at a post, read the post which was intended for someone else, and all of a sudden have a trigger reopened with those very same words coming back to them.

If you or your child is a victim of bullying at this point, I would stay clear of the Nick and Stephanie Soo feud because at this point it, I see it as counterproductive. Finger pointing never made any situation better and it isn’t effective in rebuilding relationships. We want both parties to come out of this situation healthy and strong.

Trumpism Comes Into View

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I consider myself to be an independent minded person. I am not a Republican, and I am not a Democrat. I am by all means an Independent. I believe that political candidates should be judged independently. Most of all, I do not gives passes when it comes to life and death situations.

With all of this, the idea a voting to enhance a specific party sounds horrendous to me. I feel like each individual has to be weighed and considered for what they stand for. Over the past 3 years I have been on the ropes in regards to voting in the 2020 election. While, I respect some of the things President Trump has accomplished in office. I can’t overlook the severity of some of the issues that continually keep popping up.

Warmonger

If you know me, you know that I love history. I feel like history teaches us how to become better citizens and how to prepare for the future. We learn from the mistakes of leaders before us and also from the successes.

This week there’s been a lot of talk about the impeachment, the hit job on an Iranian General Qassim Soleimani and the term patriot. Here’s the tricky part, Trump has done great things with employment, great things with the criminal justice system, and he’s helped to improve veterans affairs. However, the shady dealings are sooo shady when it comes to Trump. Living under Trump’s presidency is like living with an unruly teenager. Just when you think things can’t get worse, they do.

Trump doesn’t want to be the leader he was voted in office to be. He wants to lead for one group without trying to run the entire country. By not talking to BOTH the Republicans and Democrats he chose to ignore half of the country by shutting out their voices. If America goes into another war, it is important for all sides to agree on the stage. We need space, allies and direction. Right now Iraq is asking us to leave as well as other nations. We are locking ourselves out of the Middle East by having him as a leader and perhaps changing our part in history as being the good guys.

Will The Real Patriots Stand Up?

Lastly, if you try to blast me with being unpatriotic, I have this to say. I do not support someone who would have been a Benedict Arnold in the Revolutionary War. Our ancestors would be rolling around in their graves right now because they know he plotted with foreign countries to interrupt our voting process. People need to do some soul searching when in comes to our future.

When To Report Children Missing

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I’m seeing information about children who have been missing for over a month and I just wanted to share something with you. The sooner you report a child missing the sooner cops can get involved. If the police do not want to get involved, go to social media. Make sure you know which sites your children use. Get to know their handles, and the handles of their friends. If you have multiple computers keep one logged in under one of their sites so you can see movement. Also tag their phones, it might give you an idea of where they are. One of the things I ask for, which is perhaps my children’s most dreaded request, is the stand still photo.

I make them take a photo of themselves with their surroundings in view. If they are talking to someone new on social media, I make them do the cup on head photo. Why the cup on head? Easy, you might have a lot of photos in your house, but chances are you will not have any with you holding a cup on your head. You can always pick another authenticator but that’s is my thing!

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Have photos of your children ready to go, you would be surprised how many people do not have updated photos of children. Keep those photos near and ready. Also make your children get school ID cards, it will help for jobs and stuff like that, until they can get state Ids.

If it is a child that might not be in your custody all the time and you suspect the child is a victim of any type of abuse you want to get Child Protective Services involved ASAP. They will be able to do a joint investigation with local law enforcement and perhaps even send out a CSCAL depending on where you live. Again you can do this if you think someone was put in harm’s way because their guardian didn’t do a good job taking care of them, this is something you would want to let CPS know. Remember we are living in a dangerous world, and there are sex trafficking hubs in every city. These traffickers are at the malls, bus stations, parks and even lurking at places like food courts.

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So, try the social media sites, know the social media sites, know the friends and if you get nothing, call the cops. Do not wait for hours, call after you get no reply from the social media sites. Hey, if she comes home a few hours later all the better, but you never want to wait a day to report or even half a day to report. Report your child as a runaway if you have to, just report. If all else fails, go to social media. Use Twitter, Facebook and anything else you can get your hands on. Tweet it to the world.

Get to know sites like http://www.missingkids.org/ and local runaway shelters in your areas. If there is an issue with a minor running away, it might be time to get help from some of the local community providers who provide counseling. https://www.1800runaway.org/

When The Internet Became One Big Neighborhood

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When we think about community, we often think about the people in our neighborhood. We think about the closeness, likeness, and struggles we face together. We see the people down the street and place the neighbor label on them which makes us look a little longer if things appear out of place in their departure. We assign ownership to the places that are deemed precious near our houses which are often placed within our neighborhoods.

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Yesterday, for some of us, our neighborhoods grew a lot larger. We mentally adopted a teenager that was assaulted by a group of girls and something magical took place. It just takes a few positive voices and things can start turning. Yesterday while we all struggled to keep #JUSTICEFORJANISE trending something became crystal clear around the 5th hour. Nobody was giving up on finding this little girl.

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We were all picking up our internet torches and wading through the pool of concern. Tweets went out to Trump supporters, Obama supporters and many more people, and they did not fall flat. All hearts reacted! Soon the concern was trending all over the United States with concern flowing into other countries. While we weren’t able to grab the attention of those in office, we were able to grab attention to someone more important.

We were able to make our case to the people and the people formed an online haven of love. I’m in Texas, but it didn’t stop me from caring. Others were from other states, but it didn’t stop them from sharing. Brave friends like @D4MURE, @sharii41886239, @lissa_ajana and @kiologyz created the perfect search for their friend. While things might not be over for the young lady in the video, I do believe she will now find that she has a nation of support behind her. It just took a handful of friends with the courage of an Army with the intent of bringing their friend home.

Now the healing will begin and let’s hope yesterday isn’t forgotten because we stood as one big family with no concern over difference, just the connection of love. Love really is the key.

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While You Were Sleeping

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President Trump, AOC, Senator Harris, Senator Booker, and many more, today started out with a frantic cry for help. You didn’t hear it, even though we the citizens called out your names loudly in our moments of despair. We witnessed yet another attack on another child and then there was silence from those who normally speak the loudest.

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Our children are being attacked one by one and nobody seems to hear us. While you were sleeping Janise Harris was attacked by a group of girls. She was beaten and taunted. As if that wasn’t enough her attackers then put her on the wrong bus not caring if she made it home or not. This story hits home for me because my daughter was attacked years ago and just like Janise, she too bent over to diminish the pain from the blows. I’m not sure if Janise has been to the ER but I recall when we took my child to the ER and saw the words assault written across the diagnoses page.

I recall feeling helpless and invisible much like Janise’s friends felt at the start of this morning until Twitter happened. You see, it would have been nice to hear from any of you to show that you could have taken a moment out of your day to just send one simple tweet about helping children who are bullied. Yet, you all had your campaigns to worry about while our children were worrying about living.

Is this the version of America you want to give us? Do you only want to talk about race related issues that divide this country? Today, I’ll have you know that we all worked together to try to find Janise. We were Republicans, Democrats and even us crazy Independents rolled up our sleeves and pressed on the Tweet button. Around 5 PM we were notified that Janise was found safe, but she will have a lot of trauma to deal with because of the attack. I just thought you should know what you missed while you were arguing.

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Loving What You Do Makes Things So Much Easier

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So, last week we posted my daughter’s episode for her YouTube channel and something magical happened. If you watch the video you will see her just come to life. For a while, cooking has been her coping skill especially after PTSD took over. It really helped to act as a caldron for the negative energy she was feeling.

It is so important to establish something positive when dealing with children who have been victims of bullying. We started her YouTube channel two maybe three weeks ago and since then she has stayed three nights at a friend’s house. Some of you might be like that’s not a big deal. Well, for her it was a big deal because prior to three weeks ago she had never felt confident to stay away from home, we are talking about 5 yrs of not wanting to be close to anyone other than us. Her friend was like you are 17 and never slept over anyone’s house and she was like nope!

So of course when her friend stayed over here, I might have went a little all out! I talk so much about what she has been through and this video just shows how she’s laughing and loving life. If you are dealing with children who were victims of bullying, remember being there is number one. Don’t try to push them into anything until they are ready. I might have suggested she try a food show, but it’s all her.