House Hunting With Climate Change Leading The Way

We all have different opinions when it comes to science. If you are like me, there are certain areas of science I tend to focus on perhaps a little more than others. Over the past two weeks we have started looking for a new house. Our lease ends here around April and it’s safe to say our children seem to like this area. So, now we are actively looking to buy a home within the next couple months ” God Willing” give or take a month or two in this area. So we are focusing on space, sunlight, neighborhood, and the ability for our children to walk around without cars racing down the road.

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Buying a house is a big responsibility and it needs to fulfill all the needs of a family. Yet, at the same time, I want our house to be energy friendly. One of the things I really wanted was a swimming pool, but swimming pools can drain a lot of energy. They can be just as costly as heating if not more in some areas. So, we agreed that a hot tube would be a better bet. Saltwater hot tubs are good, and it turns out they will be friendly to my daughter’s eczema and a good pain relief for my husband’s back. They do not hold nearly as much water as a pool and take up less energy.

Speaking of energy, I love heat. Heating in the winter kills our electric bill. So, we are looking for houses that will be able to support solar panels. I am looking at getting no more than 15 and no less than 7. I am not trying to offset the entire bill, but if I can trim maybe 50 percent of it away, that would be awesome. Our bill was running well over 400 dollars monthly last winter which prompted me to start preparing for winter early. I went out and purchased curtains and other little things to warm up some of the rooms.

Lastly, we will add an eco-friendly irrigation drip system when we find the perfect area. I really suck at growing things, but that doesn’t stop me from trying. So, with all these things really banking on sun light, we will need to find a place with a nice amount of sun. Currently, I am noticing a lack of sidewalks. I never really noticed it before, but most of the areas we have visited lack sidewalks. Technically we are not in a rush, but if the perfect house comes our way, our 21-year-old will live in the house until our lease ends.

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That’s the skinny.

The Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle Showcases How Interracial Marriages Can Be A Challenge In 2019.

Interracial marriages still face problems that many people do not truly understand. I think many people are under the impression that interracial marriages are fully accepted now because we see more couples in interracial relationships. However, what many people do not see is the struggles that still exist surrounding the couples on a day to day basis. Just take the gallery that I use for my blog pictures for example. There were plenty of pictures showcasing loving relationships, but hardly any of them were of interracial relationships.

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When Meghan Markle married Prince Harry over a year ago many like myself were over the moon! It was a win for love and one more nail in the coffin for racism, so we thought. You see more couples that choose to marry outside of their race today, but what you do not see is the racism that comes with that choice. I recall the first time I witnessed issues stemming from my marriage some years ago. We went to a retreat near Big Bear which showcased how couples were supposed to communicate with each other. After our lessons were over, the couples would all head towards the cafeteria and mingle. My husband and I weren’t approached by anyone and to make matters worse later that night we had to share the room with a couple that seemed to be fixated on what being black meant. Later on we would get looks from others. We would also have incidents were certain people would try to pick at the spouse that wasn’t the “correct” race.

What we are seeing today with The Duchess of Sussex and The Duke of Sussex is the real face of acceptance. Nobody wants to admit to being a bigot, but with the curtains now pulled back, we are seeing that bigotry is alive and well. Don’t get me wrong, we have made advances in gaining the right to marry who we want to marry. However, attitudes are still somewhat jaded by many when it comes to interracial marriages. Do you recall the commercial that sparked a debate on interracial marriage just 6 years ago.

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Pick any high profile couple that happens to be married to someone outside of their race and ugly comments are not far away. After Matthew McConaughey married Camila Alves there were comments about how he could have done so much better. Never mind she is drop dead gorgeous, but some still felt that she was not fit to be his wife because she wasn’t white. Comments were made after Serena Williams married Alexis Ohanian and so on. Anytime you see a interracial marriage, get ready to see ugly comments. People have been called race traders, nigger lovers, mud sharks, Oreo cookies, and other hurtful names.

The best part of it all, at least in my opinion, is that interracial couples are increasing at a higher rate. My soon to be son-in-law is white and my other daughter’s boyfriend in Chinese. The hate hasn’t scared people away from being people. It shows that even though racism still occurs, it isn’t turning people away from wanting to be with the ones they love. As for my relationship, the looks and the ignorance made us stronger as a couple. The harder people looked us, the tighter we held onto each other. It was us against the world and it has been that way for almost 23 years now. So, let’s hope The Duke and Duchess learn how to embrace to power of love and true unity because their love is a love that will be tested. However, pressure creates diamonds, so let the hate keep coming, their love will just keep shining.

Here We Go!!! First Morning Of School 2019/2020

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And we are off! Alison has to be at swim class in 42 minutes. Yes. I said it right, she is in swim class. I am really thankful I taught her how to swim about two years ago, but I am willing to bet they might have to go over a few things. She has a really demanding schedule for this year. Ariana is taking ROTC this year which is different. When we lived in Garland, the school wanted her to take ROTC for the Air Force, but she chickened out. She isn’t overly happy about ROTC, but it might help her with self discipline.

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As for me, I’m scared and excited all at once. I am scared because I need to be something I have never really been in the past. I have to be super structured in making sure they have their allotted time for homework. So, this is the plan, I will pick them up after school and bring them home. Last year Ally walked and it was super stressful because at times she would go over her friend’s house which would take away from homework time.

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This year we will come home station ourselves in the living room and put all cellphones in the table and have 1 hour of homework time or school depress time if you may. After I told them about the new rules, Alison whispered to Ariana that we were turning white! Whatever that means!!! As for mom, I signed up for Ubereats! I want to do something that allows me the freedom that I need when it comes with taking care of my mommy responsibilities. It’s 6:21 and a hear a coffee cup calling my name. So, have a great morning and I will see you later to let you know how the new rules work out.

Update!!! 7:08 So, we dropped Alison off and she isn’t really feeling the before 7 AM class! I hope she feels better as time goes by because the schedule isn’t changing. I felt a little bad for the reporter that tried to talk to her this morning. From the looks of it, Ally kind of pushed her away with her eyes. I saw her pull my daughter over only to see her look a little funny as Ally walked away in her leave me alone mood. Welcome to my world!

American Battleground

I remember some years ago watching special news reports flash across the TV about killings in Israel near the Gaza Strip. At that time I wanted to travel to Israel, but the violence was very offsetting. It was a battleground and every time you turned around special news reports were breaking in and out of programming.

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I recall this one picture that was taken at a market with bodies all over the place and another of a blown up bus on the street. While my heart ached for the families involved on both sides of the conflict, I felt a small amount of relief because I lived in America.

It has now been about 48 hours since I last saw the video of people laying in the street, parking lots, and running for their lives right here in this country. We no longer look like the America I once knew, we look like a war torn country on the verge of catastrophe. Living in America, I do not think we have ever had to really worry about our daily outings.

Yet, the killing at Walmart’s rips deeply at my soul because it shows how far we have fallen. There will be some that want to blame Trump, others who want to blame Democrats, but let me be the first to say, I as a blogger could have done more to heal the current wounds of hate. I could have spoken a little softer, been a little friendlier and let down my guarded wall to prevent misguided feelings.

We have known that America has been on the verge of chaos for a while now. I will just name a handful of the shooting that have happened in the last 2 and a half years. In 2017 Stephen Paddock killed 58 people in Las Vegas and wounded over 400 more. Prior to that Congressman Scalise was shot and nearly killed while he and other members were practicing for a game. In February of 2018, The Parkland shooting took place which resulted in 17 people dying with two survivors committing suicide this year. Some of these shooting were racial while others were political, but the results were the same. They left the country stunned and heartbroken.

I want all Americans and even those who might not be Americans to be able to feel safe. Nobody should fear going to the store, having a bite with friends, or sending their children off to school. We need gun laws preventing assault weapons, better means to attaining mental health care, and firm mandates for social media companies that do not report threats immediately. Just as teachers, medical personnel and firemen have to report child abuse, so should Facebook, and other social media companies be forced to report potential dangers.

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When To Report Children Missing

I’m seeing information about children who have been missing for over a month and I just wanted to share something with you. The sooner you report a child missing the sooner cops can get involved. If the police do not want to get involved, go to social media. Make sure you know which sites your children use. Get to know their handles, and the handles of their friends. If you have multiple computers keep one logged in under one of their sites so you can see movement. Also tag their phones, it might give you an idea of where they are. One of the things I ask for, which is perhaps my children’s most dreaded request, is the stand still photo.

I make them take a photo of themselves with their surroundings in view. If they are talking to someone new on social media, I make them do the cup on head photo. Why the cup on head? Easy, you might have a lot of photos in your house, but chances are you will not have any with you holding a cup on your head. You can always pick another authenticator but that’s is my thing!

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Have photos of your children ready to go, you would be surprised how many people do not have updated photos of children. Keep those photos near and ready. Also make your children get school ID cards, it will help for jobs and stuff like that, until they can get state Ids.

If it is a child that might not be in your custody all the time and you suspect the child is a victim of any type of abuse you want to get Child Protective Services involved ASAP. They will be able to do a joint investigation with local law enforcement and perhaps even send out a CSCAL depending on where you live. Again you can do this if you think someone was put in harm’s way because their guardian didn’t do a good job taking care of them, this is something you would want to let CPS know. Remember we are living in a dangerous world, and there are sex trafficking hubs in every city. These traffickers are at the malls, bus stations, parks and even lurking at places like food courts.

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So, try the social media sites, know the social media sites, know the friends and if you get nothing, call the cops. Do not wait for hours, call after you get no reply from the social media sites. Hey, if she comes home a few hours later all the better, but you never want to wait a day to report or even half a day to report. Report your child as a runaway if you have to, just report. If all else fails, go to social media. Use Twitter, Facebook and anything else you can get your hands on. Tweet it to the world.

Get to know sites like http://www.missingkids.org/ and local runaway shelters in your areas. If there is an issue with a minor running away, it might be time to get help from some of the local community providers who provide counseling. https://www.1800runaway.org/

When The Walls Are Crashing Around US.

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I’m going to be really honest with you. I haven’t been looking forward to today because of what’s going on. While I might be against illegal immigration, it doesn’t mean that I do not like immigrants. I just find it unfair that so many others waited years and years upon getting citizenship the right way, and some people cheated their way in.

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There are plenty of countries that have hardships and some have been having them for hundreds of years. Migration can be great, but countries must never be left vacant of citizens to carry on with their legacies. Each country has something beautiful about it and if the citizens of those countries give up on their place of birth, it will leave a void.

With that being said, I do not like what’s going on today in regards to immigration. I feel like we are taking a page from Hitler’s playbook. There has to be a sensible way of keeping the law without inflicting pain on people. It is okay to disagree about how we feel on certain subjects, but think about the trauma that will play out today on each and every house that sees the removal of a person. We should never want to see trauma inflicted upon any human in any nature. Surely, we can secure the border without causing pain and destruction.

My Daughter’s Encounter With The Police

I’ve been struggling with something lately. This past weekend my daughter walked to the store which isn’t very far from our house. She informed us that on the way to the store a cop slowed down to a near crawl and drove beside her. She then stated that it made her nervous so the turned around and walked the other way. The policeman then turned around and proceeded to follow her in that direction as well.

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Due to the cop making her nervous she decided to go to another store which ended up being a little closer than the first store she planned on visiting. As she entered the store, the cop drove away. We have had talks about staying away from trouble. She does a good job of it, to be honest. She doesn’t really go anywhere with anyone. We have covered the basics, even warned her about staying away from hoodies which is something she had on last weekend. She hates the sun! I’m feeling kind of confused and stressed about the policeman following my daughter, to be honest. I never thought I would have to explain the dangers of being a minority female on foot. We tell her to watch out for strangers, watch out for people who look jittery, but we haven’t had to talk to her about watching out for cops.

I used to bake cupcakes and bring our cops back in Garland treats to help show our appreciation. Hell, I would even go to Taco Bell and grab food just to take it to patrol cars to show how much we cared. I’m scared because the atmosphere is changing and in many ways it has changed. I told my daughter something totally different this weekend when we talked about the encounter with the officer. I told her to be careful, face the officer, and smile if he follows you. Then I started thinking about what I was saying. Why was some officer following my daughter around and is she safe here in this small town, we call home?

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Just what do we tell our children about interactions with the police?