If you follow my blog, you know I am a big advocate for safety. I champion safe environments for children, but remote learning was starting to take a negative affect on my youngest child. It was a tough situation because one daughter was doing really good with remote learning. She was doing all the assignments! We printed out directions, passed it to the kids, and made sure they understood what they needed to do. We even helped them find different websites to help enhance their learning. Everything was going well until after about 4 weeks of school. The one with a history of asthma slowly started to shut all the way down because she missed being at school.
She was the main reason I didn’t want the girls going to school. I was terrified of her getting COVID especially after my sister and cousins caught it from their schools. However, she started sleeping all the time and refusing to do her work. On one occasion she ran out of the house to her friend’s house because she didn’t want to work on her missing assignments. It was like the harder I pushed, the more she refused. Even having her sit down next to me wasn’t producing the intended outcome. It looks so easy in the photo right? Try doing the same pose with a 15 yr old who has made up her mind that she isn’t going to do her work anymore.
It was frustrating! We had one child who was doing a great job with remote learning and listening most of the time. We purchased books on the side just so we could help our children, but it really was the social interaction that was doing the 15 yr in. My 15 yr old had went from a happy kid to a depressed vessel walking around the house. After we put her back in school her mood boomeranged. She was once again the fun loving child, we all knew , and her grades picked up.
I think if you are thinking about remote learning, you have to take your child’s personality into consideration which is something I didn’t do. While the daughter who dislikes social interaction did great at remote learning, the one who thrived in social environments seemed to show signs of distress. The one who disliked crowds was energetic and excited about getting her work done, while the 15 yr was the direct opposite. Now that they are both back in school they meet up for lunch and eat outside due to the crowds in the lunchroom.
For you guys out there that might be going through the same situation, make sure you monitor your children’s moods and stay on top of their grades. If it is taking days on top of days to get them to complete assignments or if they refuse to turn them in, you might have to come up with a new plan. For us, it was a hard choice, but watching her melt away wasn’t an option either.